Making Choices and Dealing With Feelings of Ambiguity

Do you struggle making choices? Life is loaded with opportunities. There are always going to be open doors, and where there is no door, there will be a window. It’s no wonder that you’re going to have times when you feel conflicted or you doubt yourself. You can choose to look at what comes up in your life in many different ways. I urge you to look at times of indecision or conflict as an opportunity to powerfully create your future; rather than a time where you begrudgingly view making choices as a necessary evil! Enjoying your life is more about how you look at things and situations than the things and situations themselves. Making choices is about moving forward positively.

Think of it this way; having many choices could be considered a “high class” problem. It’s always better to have too many choices instead of not enough. The choice may not be easy to make, but at least you have one! When you hold yourself back and don’t choose, don’t take that leap forward, you’ve still made a choice. It’s your decision to remain stagnant.

Making choices is the starting point for adventure

Consider looking at your decisions as the beginning of a big adventure and future success. If you go into your decision making with a feeling of dread, that is exactly the kind of results you’re going to manifest. By making choices and moving forward you open yourself up to the gifts that may come from that.

When you allow fear to take over you begin to doubt yourself. This will directly affect your decision or possibly result in your indecision. When you give into fear making choices becomes a nightmare struggle that paralyzes you and you do truly become stuck ( see…feeling stuck…)

Does this sound like you? You have the desire to do something but you have so many “what if’s” running through your mind they are causing you stress. What will happen if you do this? What will happen if you don’t do this? This can become extremely overwhelming because a million different scenarios are playing on loop in your head, freaking the hell out of you!

How to overcome the fear of making choices and deal with the feelings of ambiguity

I do understand. Not knowing which way to go is an uncomfortable place to be. Take a deep breath and attempt to bring yourself into the here and now.

Once you’ve calmed yourself down and brought yourself back to the present moment, you can begin to move forward. The best way to deal with these feelings of ambiguity is to realize that you already have everything you need to succeed in life right here, right now. It’s already there within you. You just have to listen to your higher self and trust it. Trust yourself. Stop doubting. That doubting voice is your inner critic, not your true self.

In a blog on “Alexanderous”, the author writes;

“But whenever I lift my head — and heart — above it all, I realize that ambiguity is not as much paralyzing as it is exhilarating. Because it is in ambiguity that dreams are hatched, hopes are nurtured, and possibilities run wild. That things don’t have to stay the way they are, lives can change, people can revolt, ideas can wax viral.”

http://alexanderous.co/experiences/2013/3/28/10-ways-of-approaching-life-to-help-anyone-embrace-ambiguity

In other words; making choices, however nerve wracking, can be invigorating, bringing you to a better place in your life

There is a lot to be said about going with the flow of life even though that can be one of the scariest things to do. Once you stop resisting the changes that inevitably occur and become content with not knowing how every single detail is going to turn out, life becomes so much more easy and enjoyable. Be willing to try going with the flow on something every day. Be willing to not know how it’s going to go. Be willing to have faith that it will be okay and possibly a lot better than okay, it could be great. Be willing to accept that making choices may not always have an absolute known outcome.

“When you’re accepting what is, without judgment, without thinking you will only accept it if it is this way or under certain circumstances, then happiness just naturally arises. You aren’t fighting anything and there is no internal struggle to bend anything to your will. Your guard relaxes and your mind becomes peaceful. That’s when you’re at your most powerful.”

Accepting-what-is

There is always going to be the possibility that things won’t work out the way you expected them to or even the way you want them too, but you need to move forward and make a decision. If you do not, you’re ensuring that nothing is going to happen. Above all else, the universe is always on your side, guiding and protecting you every step of the way. It’s not the enemy and it’s not trying to punish you. So, trust that when you are making choices the universe is right there constantly nudging you in the right direction. Always!

Let me know what kinds of choices you have struggled with and those that took you in surprising directions…comment below and remember the best comment each month receives a free personalized affirmation from me.