How to Relieve Stress Using Law of Attraction Techniques
For most of us it is Summer and as the temperature rises so do our stress levels! Ask any police officer their busiest time of year and, apart from the craziness that is Christmas, they will answer; Summertime! In the heat our own core temperature rises creating physiological changes often linked to the fight or flight response of increased adrenaline. We need to learn how to relieve stress for the sake of our health.
However, it is not as simple as saying, we are more stressed when it is hot. The opposite end of the scale is Seasonal Affective Disorder where lack of sunlight can cause stress and depression. Science is divided over the impact of heat on our stress levels but our language is not.
THE LINK BETWEEN violence and hot weather is so intuitive that it’s embedded in our language: Hotheads lose tempers that flare, anger simmers and comes to a boil, and eventually we cool down.
http://www.wired.com/2011/07/hot-weather-violence/
So, how to relieve stress aggravated by the hot summer months? One simple solution is to literally cool down; drink a cold drink, take a cool shower, go swimming. However, stress is often brought on by our circumstances, such as long summer holidays with the children, bored children who want constant entertainment! Holidays are not always the relaxation we want, they can be stressful and expensive, (another stress factor).
Using the Law of Attraction we can learn how to relieve stress not just in the summer months but all year round.
How to relieve stress through acceptance and appreciation
Our focus on the downside of summer with cries of “It’s too hot” brings more negative energy into our lives. Constant complaining about things we dislike just brings more of the same into our lives. Remember, we attract what we are, not what we want. No, you cannot change the weather, so your first step is acceptance. Yes, it is hot, yes this makes us feel uncomfortable. However, it also means we can go outside without wind, cold, rain stopping us from enjoying nature.
Stress often starts with a feeling of uncomfortableness, followed by sweating, heart racing, and waves of anxiety washing over us. It manifests itself physically as well as mentally. Your first step is to accept that what you are experiencing is a stress response. However, you are not actually in danger, your thoughts are creating the perceived threat. A simple physical counter balance to this stress is slow, deep breathing. Now, be careful to slow your breath first, counting in and out helps with this. Don’t take a huge lungful straight away, this is likely to cause a rush of blood to your head followed by possible fainting! You need to practice your breathing to learn how to relieve stress this way, so do it when you are not stressed so you can recall it when needed.
Slow breathing settles a lot of the stress response. Learning how to relieve stress through appreciation takes a bit of practice but you can help this step by creating gratitude lists.
Simply write lists of:
1. Things you are grateful for in your life
2. People you are grateful for
3. Things you love
4. People you love
When you have a stress response to a situation, do the slow deep breathing and recall in your mind your gratitude lists. Focus on going through all those things and people you are grateful for as you breathe. This serves two purposes. One, you distract your thoughts from negativity. Two, you fill your mind with good thoughts, positive images and ideas.
How to relieve stress through present moment awareness
Much of our stress is worry about the future and remorse about the past. Thinking of our past unhappiness and mistakes brings anxiety into our minds. You cannot undo what is done! Sure, if you need to make reparation for past wrong doing, then go find a way to make peace with those you have hurt. However, going over and over in your mind what you did wrong back then will paralyze you and stop you from moving forward. The stress of this is unproductive and dangerous. Ask yourself, are you rehashing the past because you are afraid of facing the present? You will not learn how to relieve stress if you hide in the past because your stress is right here, right now.
The same goes for worrying about the future. I am reminded of the White Queen in Alice Through the Looking Glass who believed, “jam to-morrow and jam yesterday - but never jam to-day.” She also screams in pain until, rather than because, she pricks her thumb on her brooch..anticipating the pain of a future hurt! Worrying about tomorrow is not the same as planning. Planning for your future is sensible and practical. Anticipating negative events and focusing on what “might” happen, however, is stressful and unhelpful to your well being.
Focus on the now, the present moment and you will be surprised at how quickly your stress reduces. Yes, your stress is now, but actually it is triggered by your past or future thinking. When you bring your attention to right now; to what you have to do now, the way forward becomes clearer. Give yourself permission to stop your negative mind chatter. Just stop, and yes, smell the roses! Look closely at what is around you now, the people, the environment, just pause that rushing anxiety and breathe it in. Getting into nature is always a great way to relieve stress and I know that can be difficult when you are at work. But getting outside, even if it is hot, is still a good idea. If nothing else, when you return to your air conditioned building, you will appreciate it!
How to Relieve Stress with Visualization and Meditation
I have written both a guide and a book on visualization because as a technique it is a fabulous way to bring what you want into your life.FREE VISUALIZATION GUIDE and MEDITATION HERE!
It is also a great way to relieve stress. Having settled your breathing and connected with the now you may still be feeling anxious thoughts. Learning to observe those thoughts impartially is part of the inner observer techniques I teach my clients. Being able to bring a positive and relaxing visualization into your mind is another way to replace those negative thoughts with a more happy outlook. Learning meditation techniques will also help to calm your mind and allow peace in. More advanced and detailed visualization techniques can be found in my book here.
Learning how to relieve stress the Law of Attraction way has the added benefit of creating an energy that brings in more of what you truly want! Let me know how you relieve stress- I love reading your comments.
Hi Lorane
I like your article but I have one query.
What about when the stress is in the present moment not thinking about the past or worrying about the future?
For example, looking after little children who are making lots of noise and mess.
Hi Karen
deep breathing helps when the children are noisy and making mess! Another option is to take them outside, walk away from the mess that is creating the stress and enjoy some outdoors time with the children. Yes, the mess will be there when you get back but it won’t feel so overwhelming. Plus, children just seem less noisy outside…even if they are actually making more noise!
Long term, when you are feeling calmer, think of ways to get the children to help clear up and do as much messy stuff outside as possible.
Lorane 🙂
Your advice is so helpful and it makes so much sense. Thanks for your awesome posts.
Hi Lorane. I have a lot of stress and anxiety. Gratitude has helped me so much. And I have been practicing present moment awareness. In fact I did it today. I was driving, feeling the stress starting to build up. Then suddenly I noticed how bright blue the sky was and I realized that it was such a beautiful day. I inhaled deeply and I felt the stress melt away. I want to than you for being a constant reminder to be grateful and to live in the moment.