Yes, It Is Your Fault and You Need to Get Over Yourself!
Get over yourself? Hard to hear isn’t it? Would you rather play the role of the victim, or do you want the power to change whatever is happening?
Personally I’d much rather take responsibility knowing that if I created that mess then I’m perfectly capable of creating something better. Creating something I want! Until you learn to get over yourself, you will keep stumbling over your own fears and self recrimination.
Think about it. As long as you’re blaming someone else, blaming something else for your troubles you’re completely out of control. Now, there is a lot to be said for a very important concept and that is ACCEPTANCE , especially self- acceptance. Acceptance for whatever is taking place right now because fighting it, resisting it, being angry or resentful about it or feeling like a victim about it is NOT going to change it.
Successful Sunday Start Video- Change the way you look at things!
What does change the situation is simple…..
You get over yourself when you take responsibility and therefore control:
- Take responsibility for everything that happens. (no it was not conscious)
- Know that in some way you have attracted this into your life
- Accept the fact that this is what is NOW
- Ask the question “What am I supposed to learn from this?”
- Ask the question “What is the blessing in this?”
- Ask yourself “What would I like to have happen?”
- Now you use the Law of Attraction to manifest what you actually and consciously know you want.
I had an interesting guest on my radio show who talked about taking responsibility for your life. You may want to listen to this show and find out how changing your viewpoint and accepting responsibility works to create joy in your life. The Link is below…
To get over yourself, stop resisting!
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/the-power-of-acceptance-stop-resisting-and-find-the-lesson/
We need to develop the habit of looking at whatever happens through a positive mindset, instead of a negative and defeatist one. Of course, life will bring many challenges (such the death of someone we love), and it’s not easy to embrace them when we’re suffering and wishing those things would have never happened. But if we start cultivating acceptance in our lives right now, we’ll likely cope with future crises in a different way and view them from a different perspective. We will accept instead or resisting.
Here is what has been happening so far. You’ve been creating by default. Wouldn’t you rather create by design?
This is how it works when you cannot get over yourself and learn acceptance
Creating by Accident or default – in other words unconscious creation
- You lament over something
- You manifest more to lament about
- You get angry
- You manifest more to feel angry about
- You feel like this was “done to you”.
- You manifest more things “done to you”.
- You feel resentful
- You manifest more to resent
- You feel hateful
- You manifest more to hate
- Others begin to feel hate around you and possibly for you.
Conscious Manifestation- you get over yourself and cultivate acceptance
- Get very clear on what you want
- Write a list of goals or aspirations
- Consciously till the soil of your garden (your mind)
- Add in
a love
b compassion
c forgiveness
d gratitude
- Be as a child and delight in the adventure of life
- Develop the “Observer”. Check out my teaching here
- Recognize your Inner Ogre Remind yourself what this is here
- Breathe
- Use Visualization to manifest what you want – my Happiness First Visualization book is very effective, clear and it works.
Need help to get over yourself and find acceptance?
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You are so right. The way you look at a situation makes such a difference! Thank you for your wonderful blog and Successful Sunday Start. You always give us such useful information.