How do you find your perfect mate? How do you go about attracting the perfect match?
If love is at the core of every decision you make, you can’t go wrong. As Marianne Williamson famously said there is only love or fear, so it stands to reason that loving yourself and loving life is a pretty important thing. Without self love, you cannot possibly love anyone else. It is unlikely you will find your perfect mate if you don’t even like yourself. You see you are either filled with love and have it to give to another or you don’t. If you’re in a place of self loathing or hatred you have little to give and what you do have is tainted by your feelings about yourself and your life. You can’t give someone what you don’t possess yourself. Once you are vibrating at a level where you wholeheartedly love yourself, you can begin to love those around you and then find your perfect mate. Then you may ask yourself, “What do I do next?” You’re ready to find your perfect mate, your soulmate, but you’re unsure of where to start. Doesn’t it make sense to align yourself with the vibration and feeling of love? http://loranegordon.com/yourhappinessway/all-you-need-is-love/
You want to find your perfect mate- but are they perfect?
So now you find someone that looks or seems interesting. Your heart does a pitter patter and your palms get sweaty when they’re around. But, how will you know if this is true love? Have you found your perfect mate? You need to trust your gut, trust your judgment. If you’ve learned to hear or listen to your inner observer you will more easily know if this is the right person for you Rhina blogged about her experiences attracting to find her perfect mate. She said;
“I felt good in his presence. I felt most like me in his presence. And the thought sat there in my mind for at least a day. And then the universe said to me, “Why not him?” And then began the butterflies and a slightly different kind of joy whenever I saw him.” http://justrhina.wordpress.com/2013/04/21/the-universe-is-conspiring-in-your-favor/
I have been blessed to have my own personal experience with manifesting my perfect mate. I had married young and, shortly thereafter we realized we were better at being friends with each other than husband and wife, so we got a divorce. For some time after that I wasn’t in a place to find love and really wasn’t interested in a life long mate. Ironically, letting go is usually the path of least resistance and amazing things start manifesting. That is exactly what happened for me. To find your perfect mate you sometimes have to stop looking!
How to find your perfect mate through manifestation
When I was ready to bring in Mr. Wonderful I first determined the qualities that were most important to me. I wrote a list that included things like his values, his temperament and how I wanted to be treated. I then put into use everything I now teach my private students and clients so that they can manifest what they want in a lifetime mate, or even a date. You can hear some of these teachings on my radio shows weekly at http://my.blogtalkradio.com/yourhappinessway About three months after having made that clear decision and written the list I was set up on a blind date. He called and we talked and talked. The next evening we met for drinks and within 2 weeks of that first date he asked me to marry him. Three months later we were married and that was 34 years ago. It may seem obvious but you have to be ready to find your perfect mate and be clear on their characteristics or you will continue to meet Mr/Mrs Almost Right! For me it was quick, but don’t get me wrong, there was a lot of adjusting needed on both of our parts. Our marriage was so fast after meeting that I remember one night on our honeymoon watching him sleep and thinking to myself “Who is this guy? “ Funny now but nerve wracking at the time. I knew who he was, of course. But it took a good 5 years of being in a “getting to know you” phase for us to adjust to the new life we had embarked on together. To really begin to understand each other and to learn to work together as a well oiled machine. Prior to meeting one another, we were both very independent people. Sometimes you find your perfect mate just as you realize you are managing your life rather well on your own!
Don’t just find your perfect mate- keep them!
So what has kept us together? I find that, besides our great love for each other, we both have a tremendous amount of respect for one another. Without love and respect a marriage may last, but it won’t be happy. Plus he really is a wonderful person, a wonderful father and my best friend and I’m happy to say he feels the same about me. This doesn’t mean that we haven’t had our share of hard times, our ups and downs. But we find that sticking out the tough times and coming together through them is what strengthens our marriage and keeps us together. In those hard times, we lean on one another and make sure to remember why we have been together for so long in the first place and it always comes back to the love and respect. Those hard times are going to happen, that’s just life, but that is when we need to remember the great times. There have been many and we are looking forward to so many more.
When you find your perfect mate other good things follow!
Harry and I are blessed to have built a great life together. Our greatest gift and biggest accomplishment is definitely, without a doubt, our son. Only in his 30’s, he compassionate, loving and married to the woman of his dreams. He’s an entrepreneur and an Emmy award winning television producer and of course we’re very proud he calls us Mom and Dad. My life has turned out to be even more abundant than I asked the universe for and yours can as well. Be sure to check out my teachings, coaching and Happiness First program to help you too, to find your perfect mate. Do Leave a comment below - I read and respond to ALL my comments!
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