Encouraging Words for Those Struggling with Life

Are You Struggling Right Now? Here are Some Encouraging Words!

Need some encouraging words at the moment? Some calming, cheer you up words from a good friend? Every now and then life throws us a curve ball; often just as we feel like we are getting back on our feet. These setbacks can come when we least expect them, making them harder to deal with. They arrive in the middle of good things too! Getting married? Should be a great time- all too often the whole planning process can feel like a nightmare. Moving house? Oh boy can I relate to that…I’ve just moved house, into my dream home…well it will be when the workmen finish! I have to say I have surely needed some encouraging words the last few weeks.

“A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.” (Unknown)

Sometimes it feels as if you are hardly living, you are just coping and this can really drain your energy. You need a boost, some encouraging words to keep you going and you truly hope that those around you are supportive, but sometimes they are not. Having a support network around you when you are facing life’s struggles is very important and sadly, for some, difficult to achieve. You are often thrown back on your own resources so you need to find a strategy for dealing with adversity on your own.

Encouraging Words are around us- but we need strategies too!

This is where being able to harness your inner observer helps. If you can step back from your thoughts you can change them. One of my favorite Wayne Dyer quotes is;

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”

A good exercise to try when facing a challenge is to think about how somebody else would deal with it. Disconnect your personal reaction to the stress and upset this setback is causing you. What advice would you give somebody else in that situation? How would somebody you admire handle it? What encouraging words would you use- say them to yourself! Take yourself out of the equation and try a dispassionate assessment of the problem.

Next, look for the good in the situation. Many setbacks and crises are time limited. In our hearts we know they are finite, the chaos will end, the hurt will not be everlasting. There WILL be a day when we look back and say, “It ended” “I handled it”- the trick is to put yourself there NOW. Imagine the problem resolved, the situation over and how you feel then. Many challenges make us stronger; imagine you are already strengthened. This is where you can use the technique of visualization to help you. See yourself at the other side of this challenge. What good came out of it, how did you change? This will help you to identify the good that already exists- if we free ourselves from the overwhelming negativity of a situation we can start to see the good parts. Marriage preparation may hit hurdles, throw up anxieties, but the act of marriage is a good thing, a declaration of love, a commitment to a lifelong partner. Moving house is horribly stressful, but when the dust settles I look out of my windows and delight in a marvelous view!

Encouraging words but no blame!

Sometimes we face challenges and setbacks that are caused by others. The natural reaction is hurt and anger and blame. Maybe our friends support this reaction- they feel that their encouraging words should include nastiness towards the person who has hurt you. This may make you feel better in the short term but long term it is destructive. You need to understand that you are not responsible for others’ behavior. It may be frustrating and painful, but you are only master of your own destiny. Do not let others’ shortcomings determine how you behave. You are better than that! Don’t deny the pain you feel, it is part of you at that time; but don’t hold onto it either. You have the choice as to how you live your life. If someone has hurt you, then it is probably better that they are not in your future! Do not waste precious energy on fighting them, arguing with them, filling your heart with negative feelings. Instead, focus on living your life to the full. I am not advocating revenge in any form, but I do like Sinatra’s quote on this;

“The best revenge is massive success.”

Frank Sinatra

Determine that you will make a success out of your own life; surround yourself with positive people and share encouraging words. Be wary of those who seem to revel in misfortune- I call them “Dementor Friends” - the ones who suck you dry of happiness and wouldn’t know an encouraging word if it bit them!

Encouraging Words, Pictures and Gratitude

When you are slap bang in the middle of a crisis it can be very difficult to find support. Sometimes, you are so manic and angry that friends steer clear of you! Just when you really need encouraging words and a shoulder to cry on, they stop returning your calls. This is a warning sign that you have tipped over into the , “Friend who moans constantly and I don’t want to talk to them” category. You need to pull yourself up at this point. read encouraging words yourself; look at inspiring pictures; find something to laugh about and practice gratitude. The universe is waiting for you to realize that you have the power to change your situation. Once you actively work towards improving things for yourself, you shift your energy and the universe will respond. Those friends will call back and support will come, because you have learned to support yourself!

I came across this video the other day and it made me feel good- so I thought I would share it with you Sometimes in our darkest hour we forget others- this video shows what happens if you “Give a little love..”

I am ending this post with a few encouraging words that have helped me through some dark times. Please feel free to share some of your own encouraging words- it is good karma!

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