Dealing with anger does not mean ignoring it
Dealing with anger is just one of the challenges in life. As humans walking this earth and handling life, every day we will experience a myriad of emotions. This is simply human nature, but the question is how are we dealing with those emotions? That’s the key. You see these teachings are not about learning to never get angry or sad or jealous or remorseful. This is about learning to handle these very human emotions in a conscious way so that they don’t negatively impact your life. In fact, blocking or numbing them will just make them come back and possibly in subversive and even more damaging way. Ways such as ill health, self sabotage and ruined relationships. Dealing with anger, sadness and being hurt (just to name a few) is not the most fun part of our lives and can be difficult to manage. I certainly don’t know anyone who likes to feel that way. The truth is that we are choosing those feelings, even if unknowingly. We choose those emotions just as easily as we choose feelings and emotions that make us feel good. This is most often unconscious and you can be sure your pain body is involved in these unhappy choices.
How is the pain body involved in dealing with anger?
When the pain body is in full “alert” it can be so strong it actually feels as if it’s taking you over. You can almost feel as if you’re doing or saying something against your will. Dealing with anger in a negative way can facilitate this take over. When this happens we can no longer control our thoughts and frighteningly at times even our actions. This can be like a runaway rolling stone and the pain body will feed on every negative thought that arises, and get more energy. http://loranegordon.com/yourhappinessway/yes-you-do-have-a-pain-body/ There have been many studies that indicate that emotions can manifest as ailments that show up in our physical body. The emotions of anger, sadness and hurt are no exception. Some of the more obvious symptoms many experience are things like tension & migraine headaches, muscle and stomach aches…just to name a few. Meta physical thinkers like me see the connection to heart disease and even cancer. Have you ever stubbed your toe and felt a surge of rage as the pain washes through you? Look at it the other way round; rage translates to pain, so in dealing with anger you need to acknowledge the pain. When we experience these emotions in an unconscious way they add to our already developed pain body. In his book “The Power of Now”, Eckhart Tolle describes it as “past emotional pain alive in your life today”. It is a living entity or energy field and like a parasite, it stays alive through feeding on your energy. Without your energy and attention, it would starve. - See more at: http://www.personal-development-inside-out.com/eckhart-tolle.html#sthash.S78eRgGl.dpuf
Acknowledging the pain body is a necessary part of dealing with anger
What if we’re already in “pain body take over”? What do we do? Don’t panic. Congratulate yourself for noticing and prepare to release it… After we’ve identified and acknowledged the presence of the pain-body we need to notice how our emotions and even our body has been affected. Noticing and becoming aware is really what living and growing as a conscious being is all about. Allow yourself to simply notice when you feel whatever it is you feel. We all experience uncomfortable feelings from time to time and the more quickly we acknowledge them the sooner we can deal with the pain body take over. The sooner we can once again gain conscious control. So, your first step in dealing with anger is to acknowledge it. Allow yourself to feel. It’s necessary to feel before you can learn to release. Feel where it hurts, breathe deeply and become aware of it. Let the inner observer take over which will help you become detached. Then it will begin to become clearer to you that your pain body is completely comfortable in a place of unhappiness. Observe the need to obsess over it and the need to fight against it. Accept all of it exactly as it is. Resisting a feeling never works. As a matter of fact resistance is counter productive to your goal of clearing these uncomfortable and destructive feelings. The best way to begin releasing is to acknowledge and breathe! In dealing with anger this way you prevent it from taking control. For more information on understanding the pain body, from Eckhart Tolle see, Huffington Post Article
It is an accumulation of painful life experience that was not fully faced and accepted in the moment it arose. It leaves behind an energy form of emotional pain. It comes together with other energy forms from other instances, and so after some years you have a “painbody,” an energy entity consisting of old emotion.
We may not even recognize it for a very long time, let alone connect it to old emotions from something in our past. It gets triggered by and feeds off our feelings. I introduced the pain body to a client of mine recently. She had great success. When I asked her about her experience, she said;
“Releasing my pain body was a necessary factor in my healing that I was missing all along. I shut off my feelings to benefit everyone else, so I thought there was no reason for me to feel so shitty. What I didn’t realize, was that the anger I felt was still there. It was festering inside of me and affecting me every day. I just didn’t realize it until I did the Pain Body Release. For the first time in years, the day after releasing my pain body, I felt my body literally release. For so long (years), I couldn’t cry. That day, I bawled my eyes out at church in another room for over an hour and it was as if a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders (one of my spots of the pain body.) I finally had realized that I had been taking on responsibilities that weren’t mine to take and took ownership of other people’s emotions, while simultaneously abandoning my own.”
Dealing with anger, past and present is a necessary part of becoming more healthy. Life can be turbulent. We may need to do the pain body release more than once. But just know there is a tool and it is always there when you need it. Becoming aware of and releasing the pain body will give you the chance you have been searching for to feel happy and even carefree and you’ll be able to enjoy all that life has to offer! For more help on understanding how to do the Pain Body release, go to Pain Body Release Teaching Let me know how you deal with anger or how I can help you, please comment below…
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