Be Selfish, It’s OK

We are told from an early age, not to be selfish asbeing selfish has such a negative connotation.. Many have looked at it as being an attribute to be avoided. I’m here to tell you that it is actually a very healthy way to be. So let’s rephrase it and start thinking about it in a different way! You are an amazing and loving person and that is because you are taking care of and loving yourself. This could only be considered a bad thing if you were taking care of and loving yourself, at the deliberate expense of others. It is possible, not to mention much healthier, to be loving, kind and caring toward yourself as well as to others.

Have you ever traveled on an airplane? If you have, you will know that at the beginning of every flight, the flight attendant does a demonstration on how to work the emergency oxygen mask. She tells the passengers to first ensure that the mask is correctly secured on themselves, before they help any accompanying children and loved ones with their own masks. Isn’t that an amazing life lesson as well? You need to take care of yourself first before you can take care of others.

According to Steven J. Seay, in his article entitled “The Power of Being Selfish: Selfishness as a Key to Mental Health” on “Psychology and Behavior’s” website;

“In some cases, to be healthy, wealthy, and wise…we need to make specific efforts to honor our own needs. If we don’t, we run the risk of completely burning ourselves out and suffering the ill effects of depression, stress, and anxiety.”

http://www.psychologyandbehavior.com/selfish-selfishness-mental-health/

Be selfish not a martyr

Once you learn to first take care of yourself, it will only improve your ability to be there for others. You are doing others, but more importantly yourself, a disservice by putting yourself last. You will be able to give so much more to others when you are taking good care of yourself. Check in often with yourself and make sure you are in a good place. Then you will be ready to take on the world with seemingly no effort at all. Everything will flow easily! This is the opposite of those who seemingly sacrifice all for others, but in reality martyr themselves and make those around them miserable.

Be selfish- put yourself first

So how do you begin to put yourself first? How can you be selfish in a good way, a way that empowers you to make life better for others too?

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Take a deep breathe, meditate, do yoga, make a list of all of the things you are proud of accomplishing, all of the qualities you admire most within yourself and also list your dreams for your incredible future. When you do this, you will open up your creativity and awareness to attract more and more greatness to you! All of your hearts’ desires that you’ve been ignoring will finally come to light! You will unconsciously begin to know when it is necessary in your every day life to regroup and take some time for yourself. That inner knowing means that you are valuing yourself more. You’re on your way!

Being selfish, simply taking care of yourself and making sure you are staying in a good head and heart space, will get you that much closer to your goals and dreams. Simultaneously, that will inspire others to do the same for themselves. You need to begin to love yourself and make yourself a priority. “Doesn’t it make sense to align yourself with the vibration and feeling of love? Wouldn’t it be nice if someone were to look inside of you and say all you need is love and she’s/he’s got plenty of it? - See more at: http://loranegordon.com/yourhappinessway/all-you-need-is-love/

It’s admirable to care for, to love and to want to help others however and whenever you possibly can, but to do this you need to maintain healthy boundaries for yourself. Remember, you deserve to receive! You need to create a healthy balance of giving and receiving. If you don’t, you could very easily end up overextending, draining yourself and losing yourself in the process. This does neither of you any good and in fact only does harm. Resentment is a by product of giving too much.

“This may be a hard pill to swallow, but have you figured out yet that the source of your unhappiness centers not on everyone and everything you’re caring for, but instead…you.”

http://www.muscleandstrength.com/articles/8-tips-health-happiness

Be selfish and make others happy

You can only give someone else what you yourself already possess. As the great Wayne Dyer says; “You do not attract what you want, you attract what you are.” You need to give yourself more attention, consideration, care and love. That will naturally make you more attentive, considerate, caring and loving to others…but always remember that sometimes it’s necessary to put yourself first. Everyone in your life will thank you for it. They will see how much happier, loving and giving you are, because once you possess all of these emotions for yourself, it will become part of who you are and emanate from you to everyone around you! So, be selfish, you know it makes sense!

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Be Selfish- You Need to Be

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Lorane Gordon

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Be selfish for your own health and happiness. This article explains why sometimes it is important to be selfish to ensure the happiness of those around you.