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End of the world thinking is bad for you!
Do you worry about the end of the world? Are you one of the 22% of Americans who believe the world will end in their lifetime? ( Reuters poll May 2012). Did you get yourself ready in your underground bunker on December 20th 2012 only to find the traffic jams were still there on December 21st and oh no, now you have to go out and buy your family Christmas presents after all?
All around me I know fabulous people with positive and uplifting views on life. People who are connecting with the world and the people in it with love and compassion. It saddens me that anyone should have given up on humanity and resigned themselves to predictions of gloom and end of the world scenarios.
My radio show guest this week is an eminent scientist and expert on the Mayan calendar who saw December 2012 as signifying a shift in human consciousness, not the end of the world. See the link to that show at the end of this post.
5 warning signs that you might be an end of the world thinker
Here are some of the warning signs you should watch out for, to avoid finding yourself sucked into the ultimate in negative thinking.
1. Lack of faith in human nature
Do you think the worst of people? The Law of Attraction states we attract what we are. So, if you expect people to let you down, voila, they let you down!
Look at yourself before judging others. Our view of the world is often colored by our own self-esteem. When you feel badly about yourself it’s easy to feel negative about others. If you feel your world is ending then the end of the world for humanity seems much more possible.
Go out and see what remarkable things are happening in the world around you. Volunteer for a charity, it helps put your own problems into perspective. Restore your faith in human nature by watching uplifting tales of kindness and heroism and avoid the negative media. Try turning off the news for a few days!
Take a look at yourself and how you react to the world around you- my Inner Observer post will help with that
2. You believe in the “Defend What is Mine” philosophy
For me this is the most disturbing part of the doomsday “prepper” idea; that only those with the same beliefs deserve to survive! This fortress mentality is prevalent in today’s world. I will protect my own because others do not deserve my love and care. Do you really want to be in that selfish group who believe the end of the world signifies a shift into self-serving behaviour and to heck with everybody else?
Start looking outside of yourself. Yes, take care of your family and friends, but start cultivating more of a community view of the world. As humans we were meant to connect with each other; therein lies a lot of the most fabulous achievements of the human race that led to electricity, telephone, even the Internet.
3. You need to feel superior!
Doomsday ideas appeal to those who feel put down by the world. If you are ready for the end of the world, somehow you are cleverer, and superior to others.
There are times in our lives when we feel like losers; stuff goes wrong and it can shake your self-confidence. This does not mean the whole world is wrong and that believing in the end of the world is the logical way to feel stronger! You may feel as if you cannot fight the system; that it is stacked against you and being a survivalist will somehow make you better able to win in the end.
We all suffer setbacks in our lives. How we deal with those is what defines our future.
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
― Winston S. Churchill
Feeling better about yourself requires self-acceptance and definable goals. Self-confidence can not be achieved by putting others down. Don’t be drawn into an ideology that requires you to dismiss others as not worthy- we are all worthy.
4. You want to be in control of your life.
It may seem odd that believing in the end of the world gives people control, but it has a certain finality about it when you add a date! In a peculiar way it gives focus to a person’s life as they prepare for this apocalypse while others carry on with their lives. The real issue here is that you need focus and a goal; something to aim for to make life more worthwhile.
Mark Koltko-Rivera, a New York-based psychology consultant says that knowing the date of the end of the world
…feeds the very human desire to know the unknown… The human brain is wired to find patterns even among random data in its natural instinct to understand the world.
Set goals that give purpose and meaning to your life. Read, “Finding your purpose” and “Your Unique purpose.” for some help with this. If you feel your life is less than satisfactory than take some time to imagine what you would do if there were no constraints? If you could do anything, what would it be? Wouldn’t it be better to live this life fully than contemplate the end of the world?
5. You think humans are incapable of solving the world’s problems because they are just too overwhelming.
Beliefs change over time and for many they become clearer as we get older and more experienced. Believing in the power of a higher being to fix all the world’s ills may be comforting to some, but others use is it to discredit the human ability to take responsibility for their own actions. We are, to an extent, what we do. Abdicating the responsibility for our own actions can leave us feeling powerless. See, “Accepting change”
The Mayan calendar predicted a change in December 2012 and obviously was not the end of the world. The world is shifting, but in a good way and we are far more aware of our shared humanity and oneness.
We can make a difference in our own lives and those around us if we open our eyes to the possibility.
Listen to my guest’s views on what this shift in the paradigm means to us and do let me know what you think?
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6 simple steps to alleviate and handle stress
Stress has become so much a part of our everyday existence that often we don’t even notice it. There is this slightly nervous, tense, and mildly uncomfortable feeling that many just accept as normal. For some, you know you aren’t happy and satisfied, but you may not be clear as to why. Most of us today have VERY busy and often stressful lives. In this century it’s pretty hard to get away from that , we have so much to do and so much information coming at us from so many directions. Is it any wonder we don’t know how to alleviate and handle stress?
What exactly is stress?
As the American Psychological Assoiation explains it,
This automatic response developed in our ancient ancestors as a way to protect them from predators and other threats. Faced with danger, the body kicks into gear, flooding the body with hormones that elevate your heart rate, increase your blood pressure, boost your energy and prepare you to deal with the problem.
Then if that isn’t enough there is that constant message through the media that we don’t look good enough, our teeth should be whiter or we should be a few sizes smaller. It’s a constant bombardment telling us we aren’t enough and of course there are the responsibilities we all have. When we add it up it’s pretty natural that we have that non stop chatter in our head and mind that enhances the stress. All of the woulda, coulda, shoulda’s that plague us, causing us stress even when nothing earth shatteringly stressful is occurring!
So what I’m saying is that we’re all subject to it. Please don’t feel like you’re the only one going through this. But the difference is in how we handle stress and learning how to alleviate stress.
6 Best Ways to Handle Stress
If we just feel badly, if we feel anxious but are so accustomed to it we don’t even know there is another way then we can’t do anything about it. But, Oh, there is another way. First, awareness is the key.
You may have heard the term Observer or witness, this is your awareness guide. It’s part of you but most haven’t developed it enough to get that feedback we all need to do something about our stress. To do something immediately before we turn to alcohol, drugs, overeating or any number of other numbing substances or behaviors. I have some really helpful blogs on the subject of the Observer that will show you how to become aware enough of your feelings so that you can take better care of yourself, be happier and get more of the things you want. The Inner Critic, The Observer,
This is as easy as breathing deeply, it’s free, you can do it in public, 24/7. The key is you must be aware enough to do it. You must be tuned into yourself enough to know that you are feeling stressed. Or even to know that you are going into a situation that may cause you to have to handle stress. Breathing is preventative and also curative. It helps you to avoid that panting sensation and is a simple step to handle stress.
Try this now to quiet your busy mind, reduce your stress or anxiety and bring you into the present moment.
This is a deep belly breath. Put your hand on your belly near your waist and as you breath in allow your belly to balloon out. When you breathe this way you are getting that oxygen deeply into your lungs.
Now exhale and, as you do, allow your belly to contract slightly. This removes the old stale oxygen from deep within.
- Breathe in through your nose slowly to the count of 4
- Hold for the count of 4
- Breathe out through your nose or mouth for the count of 4
- Hold with no oxygen for the count of 4
You may have to adjust this according to your ability to hold your breath and that’s perfectly fine. As you do this more and more you will be able to breathe deeper and longer quite easily. This is one of the simplest ways to handle stress as it occurs.
- Acknowledge your feelings and feel them
Sometimes we don’t acknowledge our feelings because we worry that our emotions will be too overwhelming. Although it’s true that feeling emotional can be scary if we’re not accustomed to “feeling” you’ll quickly notice that it’s actually cathartic. It’s like a water boiling with no place for the steam to escape. Feeling the emotion allows some of the stress to diminish.
It’s not as much the “feeling” of the emotion that is scary it’s the thinking about it that frightens us. This is because the thinking comes with the what if’s. What if this happens and what if that happens? Most of those what if’s aren’t the good kind, like “what if I win the lottery? Or what if I get a raise? They are more like, “What if I lose my job and what if I get a dreaded disease?” Those thoughts are bound to bring on the stress by the boat load. To handle stress associated with those thoughts you need to become aware of your feelings.
- Accept it
Trying to pretend something isn’t so, or trying to ignore a feeling only pushes it under the rug. As I’ve said many times, the more we push under the rug, the more hidden obstacles there are for us to trip on. Just because you think you are hiding it doesn’t make it go away.
When you notice that you’re having a feeling say to yourself. “OK, this is the way I feel now”…and allow yourself to feel it. That does not mean over thinking it, but to feel it. A good way to do this is to find the discomfort in your body. Often going into the body instead of thinking about something is the way to handle stress and get past it and all the feelings and scary thoughts that accompany the stress. To learn more about the pain body go here.
Once accepted you’ll find that most of your stress was not from the situation itself, but from the not accepting it.
- Get into the present moment
Try this simple Present Moment exercise. Hold a flower in your hand. Look deeply into it while breathing. Notice your thoughts judging the flower and accept that and continue breathing deeply. Now touch the petals with your fingers noticing the texture and the temperature of the flower. Gently lay the flower against your cheek with your eyes closed and experience the feeling. Now inhale the fragrances.
You can do this with any type of plant, fruit, vegetable indoors or outdoors and get a similar result.
Notice how your mind quiets down, how your senses are delighted at the essence of this plant, whatever it is. Try it while sitting under a tree and just “being” with it. Look at the bark, the branches, the leaves. Once you try this I can almost guarantee you that you’ll never again dismiss this idea as nonsense. This also has to be one of the most pleasurable ways to handle stress!
- Self care
When we’re feeling stressed often the last thing we want to do is to take better care of ourselves, but that is when we need it most. I’ll say it though you’ve read it and heard it many times before. Take a walk. Yes, go outside and just take a walk. The act of walking especially in nature has been proven to help alleviate and handle stress and improve our health.
Everything I have written about here is well within your control and that may be another reason why they are so effective in helping you to handle your stress. Once again, we all feel it from time to time. The difference is in how we handle stress.
Listen to my radio guest Tamara Dorris as she gives you insights into how to handle stress and get back your life.
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Positive Psychology aligns with the Law of Attraction.
“Positive Psychology is the scientific study of the strengths and virtues that enable individuals and communities to thrive”
As I did a little research for this blog I ran across some mainstream psychologists giving their opinion on how and why the Law of Attraction should be debunked. It is obvious to me that their understanding of the principles are less than clear.
Neil Farber, M.D., Ph.D.
You will also never make any plans or consider any challenges (both express doubt and thus negativity). Further, to maximize your chance of success, you should not surround yourself with what you do not want such as anyone who is not in perfect mental or physical health. In other words, you should not be a healthcare provider or join any support groups.
This is ridiculous! I’ve been a teacher of manifestation longer than this guy has been alive and I have NEVER, and again I say NEVER told any of my students not to make plans for their future and make them intelligently. My motto has been and always will be “think positive, but tie up your horse”.
He and many others like him also say or believe that the Law of Attraction says to never admit to feeling any doubt, unhappiness or fear of an unwanted situation popping up.
Once again, I’m not quite certain where they’re getting that nonsense. If they really had researched the meaning of the law they would never have seen an expert write or even say that. I know many teachers of this principle and we are all in agreement that if you feel something pretending it isn’t there will actually cause it to grow stronger.
I always encourage my students and clients to feel their feelings and even to express them in the correct and healthy way. This does not mean constantly going over your tales of woe with the neighborhood gossip or anyone that just loves to give negativity extra energy.
This means to realize that you are feeling negative, victimized, fearful or doubtful and feel it fully then do what’s necessary to get it out of your system. I teach that to my private clients and have a wonderful Purge the Pain Body mp3 that helps with these feelings.
Nowhere does the true law of attraction say that you are not supposed to be real. But it does say that you are to place your focused attention on the things that you do want. It says to surround yourself with as much positivity as you can and to try and steer clear of anything that seems to be a “dark cloud” if you can. Positive psychology also focuses on this idea of surrounding yourself with positivity.
William Walker Atkinson wrote in his book “Thought Vibration or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World” that:
“The more Desire you have for a thing, the more you Love it; and the more you Love it, the greater will be the attractive force exerted toward its attainment – both within yourself, and outside of you.”
The part of this that is often misunderstood is when we give substantial emotional attention to negative or fearful thoughts and feelings this is translated to the universe as something we desire. You see that’s how the law of attraction works. It brings into the physical that which you give the most energy. The interpretation is that “you want this thing” whatever it is. The universe isn’t judging your desires as positive or negative, just that your desires are creative.
Positive Psychology Principles
I really identify with many of the principles of Positive psychology because as a dictionary definition “Positive psychology is the branch of psychology that uses scientific understanding and the effective intervention to aid in the achievement of a satisfactory life, rather than merely treating mental illness.”
As a coach I help my clients and students in a similar way. I don’t treat the problem; I offer a solution in the form of practices that work to create a happy and abundant life.
Part of my job as a life coach and an expert in LOA and Present Moment Awareness is to help my clients understand the beliefs that may be keeping them from living the life they desire.
You’ll want to listen to my expert on Positive Psychology Lisa Cypers Kamen MA on this weeks radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/yourhappinessway/2014/11/07/happiness-firstamazing-things-will-follow–lisa-kamen–lorane-gordon
Often these beliefs are so unconscious and buried that awareness of them is almost impossible without the help of someone like me who is able to easily find the underling belief that may have cause an unwanted result.
Once we unearth that erroneous belief we can replace it with a new and supportive belief. We learn to understanding that our perception at the
time the belief was birthed was flawed. Or, it may be that the person who handed us that belief also had a slanted idea of “truth”. Once we find the belief causing the problem finding evidence for a new and empowering belief isn’t all that difficult.
The words Law of Attraction may be new, but the concept and truth of the law is as ancient as time itself.
As early as circa 391 BC, the Greek philosopher Plato had already stated that “likes tend toward likes” (or like attracts like) as in earth to earth, water to water, and so on.
The best ways to use the Law of Attraction and Positive Psychology
- Decide on your goal & clearly write it down
- Understand the thoughts beliefs and emotions that may be in conflict with your goal
- Work to change the beliefs that may be creating what you don’t want to show up in your life
- Notice your thoughts and purposefully redirect them towards what you do want.
- Use gratitude to fully charge your energy field with positivity that will help you to attract all the “good” you want.
If you need some help in identifying your limiting beliefs, take a free consultation, let me help you
So, do you think positive psychology works with the Law of Attraction? Let me know your views, comment below.
You need Inner Strength and Courage to Uncover Your Truth
Are you just going along in life, mildly unsatisfied, but doing what you’ve seen everyone else in your life doing? You’re not even paying attention to the fact that there is this gnawing unhappiness, a constant discontent and a feeling that there must be more to life. You are feeling weak and helpless, but you can uncover your inner strength.
Then suddenly comes the day when you wake up and realize that you’re wasting your life. That you’ve been avoiding the “big” questions because you felt more comfortable just doing what you’ve always done. You’ve reached your breaking point and you just can’t do it any more. Now what? To be confronted by your deeper truth, your real feelings when you really didn’t even know you had them is scary to say the least.
Or perhaps you’ve known that you’ve been settling all along but were reticent to do anything about it. You were concerned with the discomfort that would come from reaching for more, the criticism you may endure if you made the attempt and didn’t make it. The strange looks you may receive from your family and friends when they see you’re taking a different path then theirs. Yes this all takes courage and inner strength.
When the discomfort of not being true to yourself becomes harder to deal with than the fear of others opinion of you that’s when the rubber meets the road. Now you have no choice, you need to do something, you need to access your inner strength and be who you’re meant to be.
The Science Of Conquering Your Fears — And Living A More Courageous Life
The groundbreaking work of Brene Brown, a researcher at the University of Houston Graduate School of Social Work and author of the best-selling Daring Greatly, has found that the belief in our own unworthiness drives us to live fear-based lives. We are afraid of letting people see who we really are and potentially exposing ourselves, so we avoid the one thing that can make us more courageous: vulnerability. Courage and vulnerability are closely aligned, says Brown, and the two qualities can greatly improve our lives.
Inner strength gives you the courage to face your fears head on!
I used to be an avid ocean swimmer and body surfer. The first thing I learned, when facing that huge wave that would quickly overtake me and drive me deep within the swirling mass of water and pummel me to the point where I no longer knew up from down, was to face it. Yes, face that damn wave and dive directly into it. The only way to conquer that wave as in life is to do that which is the most uncomfortable. That which frightens us to death and goes against every fiber of our being, that which screams RUN. Go like hell in the opposite direction from that big scary wave, but what I found was that when I dove directly into it I was in control. I knew what I was getting into, I was more prepared to handle it and the churning and crashing was far less violent because I negotiated the waters. I now equate that to my life and the very real fear I had of being true to my purpose and why I’m here on earth at this particular time. It takes inner strength to do this- but we all have it, we are just too afraid of our own power!
When I “came out” so to speak, it was at a huge family event and most of our social contacts and friends were there. It came time for me to stand up and give a speech. That was when I told everyone a little about my spiritual / Meta physical convictions. I told the entire crowd of over 150 people that I believed in our abilities to create our lives with our thoughts and I told them I’d been doing it all my life. I let them all know that my deepest convictions were and are, that we can consciously create the life we want and boy that was scary.
After that fateful day I changed my entire social group. I just stepped away because it / they didn’t line up with my truth. Yes that was difficult for me and felt lonely for a long time. I missed the buffer of that social group even though I never fully related to them and secretly knew I was different than they were. With all of that knowing, I still missed them, but when I thought about rejoining that life I knew I could not. I can’t say that I didn’t look back, but I can say that I couldn’t go back. My inner strength served me well throughout that time as it was at the core of my being to hold to my beliefs.
Michelle Ward Of the Huffington post says:
I think “bravery” comes in when you choose to do something you don’t have to in order to live your fulfilling life.
When you refuse to settle for 20, 30, or 40 years in a career you hate. When you quit your steady job as an Executive Assistant (a job that makes you physically ill because it’s such a mismatch for who you are) to launch your own company that helps people find work they love.
Now I’m so much comfortable with my life. I’m more fulfilled and I know that I’m able to fulfill my purpose with an energy that wasn’t available to me when I wasn’t living in integrity with my truth. When you tap into your inner truth and ask those difficult questions, you will find reserves of inner strength to follow that truth.
My radio guest this week talks about accessing that inner strength- tapping into the hero inside of you. “There is a Hero Inside You” with my guest Tony Edgell talks about how he got past his fears and how living his truth has blossomed into more success than he knew was possible.
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Energy Healing- New Age Hokum or Useful Medicine?
Energy healing has certainly been talked about and practiced since time began. I don’t think any of us can remember back to a time in our childhood where we didn’t at the very least watch a movie with healing rituals performed by some type of Shaman. Often it was less about physical touching and more about moving energy with fire or fronds or even music.
Today there seems to be a huge resurgence, which I suppose goes perfectly along with the so called “New Age”. Humph, what about any of this is New Age? All of these concepts, the supposed new thoughts, were clearly spelled out in every ancient spiritual and even “religious” text including the bible and the Bhagavad-Gita to name only two.
Energy healing is an umbrella term for most any therapy that moves the energy around and through our physical and or subtle bodies. The idea is to regain the body’s natural balance and cause the body to use it’s innate healing mechanisms. Most practitioners will combine different types of healing modalities1)a particular mode in which something exists or is experienced or expressed including prayer and intuition to maximize the effect.
There are as many types of energy healings as there are flavors of ice cream, so which one do you choose and are the actual results of each different? After all, isn’t energy energy? But when you actually speak to these healers, these people who use a particular mode of healing, many insist they are tapping into a different field, or current if you will. Well that does make sense to me. It’s like changing channels on the TV or stations on the radio. Some have better reception than others and some have better programming. A simplification, I know but it brings it into an area I can relate to.
Having been certified as a Reconnective Healer myself I know that I have had “healing hands” since I was a young girl and long before I received or knew about any type of healing certifications. As a pre-teen I remember one of our dogs had a terrible hip problem and a lot of pain when walking. She would limp and often wimper. Intuitively I began rubbing my hands together and then would hold them over her hips with my eyes closed. At that time I would will her to heal through my hands and pray at the same time. She always seemed better after those sessions. Her gait was more natural and the wimpering stopped. Then in a few days the pain returned and I would repeat my healing ritual. Truthfully I haven’t actually used my education as a Reconnective Healer since I was certified , because although I consider myself a healer I do so mostly through my guidance, teachings and coaching. I do know I create an energy shift and a healing of my clients life by my work and our combined intention, but that again is another story.
Energy Healing Interview
My wonderful radio guest Dr. Eric Scott Pearl of The Reconnection says that he was gifted this amazing mode of energy healing and that it encompasses and surpasses all other modalitaties. He says once you’ve learned how to “play” with these special frequencies you will never be the same and, regardless of whatever type of healing you may then go back to, your results will be far better since having experienced “The Reconnection”. After reading the many testimonials on Dr. Pearl’s website and personally having been with him and seen some of these happenings I have to say it is pretty amazing.
Go here to listen to the interview…Reconnective Healing with Dr Eric Pearl
Sura of the Huffington Post writes
Energy healing, once considered a new-age practice, is becoming a mainstream concept. In healing, people often refer to channeling “chi” or “universal energy” to help people clear energetic blocks. Many people associate this practice with Reiki, a system of natural healing that uses universal energy and the laying of hands to help people alleviate spiritual, physical or mental suffering. There are many forms of healing, however, ranging from shamanism to Chinese and ayurveda medicine. Alternative methods of healing are finally being recognized by institutions as an effective way to improve health. At UCLA, hospitals now offer mindfulness, meditation and qigong. Healing has become new medicine.
Energy Healing Becomes Mainstream
In today’s world energy healing is becoming a bit more mainstream. Tapping into the body’s own frequencies as an alternative to more allopathic 2)Allopathic medicine is an expression commonly used by homeopaths and proponents of other forms of alternative medicine to refer to mainstream medical use of pharmacologically active agents or physical interventions to treat or suppress symptoms or pathophysiologic processes of diseases or conditions methods are now being used as an addition to what has been considered western medicine or when western medicine throws it’s hands up and says there is nothing more to be done.
Being a California girl I’m no stranger to alternative medicine and healthy and organic eating. I have long been concerned about the side effects
of mainstream medicine. I find it particularly eerie when watching a television commercial about a particular medicine showing two perfectly healthy, happy people doing something physical like riding bikes, or dancing salsa and all the while this lovely, soft, encouraging woman is telling you about the side effects. Often they go something like, “May cause dizziness, heart attack, loss of sight, and in rare cases stroke or early death.” Funny, the picture of these healthy people and the soothing voice go well together. So well, that we hardly hear the warning if at all.
Wellness Magazine says:
Think about a world where healthcare has no adverse side effects: Where you experience no pain during or after your healthcare procedures. Picture a world where our children look at us and ask incredulously, “Really!? Did people really used to swallow poisons to try to get well?” We have become so desensitized by our no-pain-no-gain attitudes that the onslaught of elective surgeries and pharmaceutical commercials letting us know …..
Myself I believe there is a place for allopathic medicine as well as other modalities. I see this as an individual choice and would never encourage any of my clients or students to go without their MD’s checkup should any physical ailment require attention. As they say before starting a diet, first check with your physician. After the OK from your doctor, I see energy healing as a wonderful addition to our health care.
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Positive Affirmations- the Better Choice!
You cannot hold two beliefs in your mind at the same time, so you may as well fill your mind up with positive affirmations and beliefs.
Did you know that most of the time the thing that’s keeping you from being and doing all you want and making your dreams come true usually isn’t your circumstances? It’s your deeply held beliefs.
How to change those beliefs? Well first you have to know what they are. Most of us don’t know a limiting belief from a fact. Often time what we believe to be true is only our point of view or what has been taught to us by others with limiting beliefs.
Watch my Video on the Power of Positive Affirmations
Identifying your Limiting Beliefs and using Positive Affirmations to overcome them
So how do you know what’s holding you back besides what you see in front of your eyes? In other words you’re a guy and you say, ” If I had more money I would date more girls,” but you don’t see that you have some kind of limiting belief about money. If you’re a woman and you say something like “all the good men are either gay or taken” you actually believe that is true instead of it simply being a belief. The scary part of this is that you attract to yourself according to your beliefs and so because of that limiting belief you attract evidence to support it. Then you can say “See I’m right, such and such happened”. Actually I’m right, you have caused it to happen based on the Law of Attraction powered by your beliefs.
Do positive affirmations work. Yes and no.
- They will not work if you say them a couple of times and that’s it.
- They will not work if you use one outrageously out of your comfort zone.
- You must get very clear on the affirmation that will support what you want
- You have to practice that affirmation faithfully until you begin to see evidence of it becoming an actuality.
An example of an ineffective affirmation would be “I am rich”. When you know damn well you aren’t rich. You’re behind in the rent, you’re concerned about giving the kids lunch money for tomorrow and you’re busy trying to affirm the unbelievable. I am rich. No wonder most give up with those types of affirmations.
A better one would be “Money is always flowing to me” Hopefully you find that much easier to conceive of and then the next thing that starts happening is you begin to find evidence of that truth. You begin to notice areas where you find a bargain, or find a few coins on the street. You rummage through old handbags and find a few dollars you forgot you hid in a pocket. Your confidence begins to raise based on just this little bit of evidence and now you find even more evidence. Opportunities and situations (that were always there by the way) now become obvious to you and you know that if you take action there is a potential for even more money to flow to you.
Positive Affirmations and Fear
All of a sudden something else comes up. FEAR! Fear keeps you from doing what you need to do and is often an unconscious drive.
Many of your values and beliefs are hidden in your subconscious mind. You can change these but only by practice and repetition and above all awareness. You can’t change anything if you don’t know it has to be changed.
- Figure out what you want
- Write a couple of lists in regard to what you want
- Everything you can do
- Everything you can’t do
The things you’ve written on your everything you can’t do list are limiting beliefs or driven by limiting beliefs. Now you have something to work with.
5. Use logic to bust through those limiting beliefs, for example find someone from similar circumstances as you who has not had that belief and became successful at a similar goal.
6. Figure out why you want that particular thing. – get down to the underlying experience you’re looking for.
Example: you want a new car but realize the reason you want the car is so you feel more confident.
- Create a visualization complete with the actual feeling or experience of confidence you want.(See my book on using visualizations, HERE Visualization Book on Kindle)
So you see, it’s more than simply repeating a positive phrase, or positive affirmation you have to do it with thought and persistence and a bit of action. If you need some help learning how to create positive affirmations check out my post “Learn affirmations” here.
My radio guest this week was Steven Aitchison- known as the Facebook king with half a million likes! His area of expertise is brain wave technology and affirmations.
Listen to this fascinating interview here
Take the first step..the rest follow…
You can think of positive affirmations as a drop of ink going into a gallon of water. The more drops you put in, the more colored the water becomes. It’s the same thing, but if you don’t drop in the ink nothing will change. Positive affirmations require positive action.
What about fear? Once you actually determine what it is you want and you begin going for it you may notice discomfort or actual abject fear when you just think about being or doing what you must to achieve that goal. That clearly is a fear and you can change that.
Nothing positive will happen for you until you get out of your comfort zone and this was true from the time you took your first step. Don’t you think a small baby feels uncomfortable getting up from knees to feet, taking a wobbly step only to fall and hit his little head? But what next? He tries again and again until finally he’s up walking and running and playing. The difference is though he was afraid he wasn’t as aware of it as you are now as an adult.
Just start, you don’t have to start at the most difficult thing. First try the bunny slopes just like you did if you were skiing. You don’t start off going down a double black diamond run do you? No, you start with the bunny slope building evidence that yes, you can do it.
Well it’s the same, you must get into the uncomfortable place of change before you can make the strides you need to to get to whatever place you want in life.
As Nike says “just do it”.
Preparing your positive affirmations
- Start by figuring out what you want
- Make your can do and cant do lists
- Come up with a believable positive affirmation
- Figure out what the underlying want actually is
- Create a visualization complete with sounds, tastes, smells and textures of all kinds and
- Look for evidence of that as a possibility.
Carefully thought out positive affirmations WILL work once you identify and conquer your limiting beliefs
Once you do all of that you may just realize that the experience or feeling that you are looking for in all of the things you want is Happiness. Happiness First… the rest will follow.
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Your Energy Field Tells Your Secrets
Your energy field exists even though you cannot see it. Einstein said Energy is matter and matter is energy, so why would so many not believe in energy medicine? Why do people scoff at certain people’s ability to actually read our bodies energy and help to facilitate healing? If we believe Einstein then nothing is actually solid. Even though we see and perceive it as such. The energy of something we perceive of as solid is just more dense than the more subtle aspects of our body. So for this article I’m often referring to your energy field. Most people can’t see it, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t there. You don’t see a thought do you?
Your Energy Field Creates…
Einstein’s message, although I’m certainly simplifying it as I’m not a scientist, is that at the quantum level of our existence there is only energy and information.
Deepak Chopra and others refer to this as the field of Pure Potentiality where “all” is created. We create waves within this field with our thoughts and desires and this puts into motion it’s very creation. This would clearly explain The Power of Positive Thinking and The Law of Attraction. It would also clearly explain how no matter what we’re saying the Universe takes it’s direction from our deeply held beliefs! That’s why it’s important to go beyond “affirmations” and understand our limiting beliefs and change them or eradicate them – read my post on how to do that here-Busting through limiting beliefs
So it stands to reason that thoughts and emotions are actually energy and are part of your energy field. This would explain why certain psychics are accurate. They have the ability to tap into that energy and read it as if it were a novel, or at the very least get a good sense of what the energy is standing for.
Who you are speaks so loudly I can’t hear what you’re saying
Energy healers and even the art of chiropractic taps into the bodies unseen field. Most of you have heard of miraculous cures that are unexplainable by modern medicine. There is also the art of muscle testing, where simply being close to an herb, food or toxic chemical can enhance or drain strength. Doesn’t it stand to reason that if you’re not touching it, but the strength of your body is affected that your energy field exists, it is part of you and extends unseen beyond your body?
Listen to this radio show of the same name with Dr. Timothy Campbell http://www.blogtalkradio.com/yourhappinessway/2014/10/09/your-energy-field-tells-your-secrets–dr-timothy-campbell
He explains in clear, easy to understand language how he taps into your bodies energy field to access the information he needs to help your body heal.
Learn how this amazing Doctor of Chiropractic heals you! Dr. Timothy R Campbell
- Emotional Healing
- Nutritional Healing
- Touch and manipulation Healing
- Behavioral Healing
- Sleep Healing
Your energy field affects your behavior
A star in today’s world of New Thought is Dr. Judith Orloff. She is the pioneer behind Energy Psychiatry. This is a new field that addresses the subtle energetic components of health and behavior. Energy Psychiatry blends the practice of mainstream medicine with an emerging scientific understanding of subtle energies, revered by many cross-cultural healing traditions as our life force. Practitioners in this field study your energy field to help them identify the behaviors causing mental distress.
She links our intuition with our ability to heal; identifying your energy field and being able to tap into it to understand what is going wrong with your health.
Intuition plays an indispensable role in self-diagnosis, pain control, immune response and recovery from acute and chronic illness. As you nurture your intuitive healing capacity your body then provides the energy needed to create holistic methodologies that assist you in creating breakthroughs in anxiety, panic, depression, and other emotional blockages. This approach can be a bridge between traditional and complementary medicine.
She develops this idea in http://www.huffingtonpost.com/judith-orloff-md/how-to-intuitively-make-s_b_2639083.html
Intuition offers a direct line to your life force, and also, as I experience it, to a divine intelligence. We can’t afford to remain deaf to intuition’s messages. Its expertise is energy; its job is to know every nuance of what makes you tick. A master at reading vibes, intuition is constantly tallying: what gives positive energy, what dissipates it. Who you meet, where you go, your job, your family, current events, are all evaluated — crucial data that you can learn to interpret and apply.
Hopefully this article has convinced you to pay attention to that little voice that talks to you quietly inside your head. It gives you subtle body feelings, like a sinking feeling in your gut or a pain in your heart. You can learn to read what that means for you, but it does take paying attention and practice. Your energy field can be the guide to how you are feeling- learn to recognize the messages you are being sent.
Your innate intelligence is on your side. Your higher self is always giving you messages. Listen, You’ll be better for it, I promise you.
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Let’s Get Down With The Aging Thing!
Healthy Aging is a Reality if you Have the Right Mindset
Aging,getting older; yes it’s happening whether we like it or not and I don’t know too many people past the age of 49 that really like it. Yes it does bring us wisdom and up until a certain age it brings us respect from others for our experience, but what then? How many of us are dealing with feeling invisible and unimportant, disregarded as being too old, irrelevant? STOP that now- you have a choice as to whether you embrace aging gracefully, choose to adopt a healthy aging approach or spend the rest of your life yearning for your youth.
Watch my video on how to accept this very real transition in life- aging is inevitable- how you handle it is not!
Now if you tell me that you have no particular negative feelings about getting older and all your signs of aging I must tell you that you’re not acknowledging your entire truth. Yes, I believe in thinking positive and looking for the good in every situation, but that doesn’t mean ignoring a real feeling. Anything we ignore is like pushing something under the rug. Sooner or later you’re going to trip on it and may really hurt yourself.
The Reality of Aging
There are the obvious things such as; we have fewer years to live. There are the physical changes that take place as the years go by, changes in they way we look and feel. How could you not acknowledge these very real things? They are happening and only by uncovering your feelings to the light of day can you truly move forward on your journey with integrity and real honest joy.
Here is some inspiration from The Huffington Post by Yagana Shah
My 65-plus father once told me that when he looks at young folks he feels sheer pity. Not what I was expecting to hear. But they’re fit, healthy, and able-bodied I said confusedly. True, he agreed. But they just have so many hurdles ahead of them that they can’t even imagine. There are so many uphill battles they have yet to face. I’m confident I’ve already faced the worst of my problems, he said. Let’s hope he’s right.
Bill Gordon, Ph.d in the Huffington Post writes
When I was 19, a wise wino told me, “The truth only hurts for a minute.” In September I will turn 60, and that truth hurts for more than a minute. The sad thing is that when (if) I am 70, I will be wishing I were 60, like I wish I were 50, like I wished I were 40 when I turned 50. However, when I turned 40, I was such a party animal that I did not realize I was 40 until I was 41. (Don’t judge me.)
This should tell us to appreciate the moment. How many things can we look back at to realize that we weren’t actually there, or that our thoughts about “what was” didn’t allow us to fully appreciate that time in life. We need to grab hold of the moment and understand our purpose in life- see my post about having such a purpose after 50.
- You know that having fun or a good time at anything or anywhere is up to you.
- You’re able to savor the day and not be in such a rush for tomorrow.
- You’re okay wearing comfortable shoes! (remember struggling into those gorgeous 4” heels ladies, just to look hot?)
- The early bird dinner specials for seniors!
- Senior discounts for most everything if you ask.
- Your relationships are less volatile and more mature.
- You are less concerned with how you look. That alone saves oodles of time just getting ready to go out.
- According to many You Don’t Die anyway, so you may like this http://loranegordon.com/yourhappinessway/dont-die/
You should listen to my guest Bradley Kapture, The Aging Coach. He was a wonderful guest on my radio show and I know you’ll get a lot out of listening.
If you need some help with handling aging or creating a purpose in your life now you are older- Contact me for coaching
Do you want to know how to have more energy?
Do you sometimes feel as if you are carrying a very heavy weight and that your energy has been drained? In order to know how to have more energy you need to first understand what energy drains are and why you feel drained, lethargic and lacking in enthusiasm.
Here are a few ways that your energy can be drained
- You are doing it to yourself with your self talk
- You are working too hard and disregarding your physical and mental health
- You surround yourself with people who are energy vampires
Take a look at my video on draining your creative energy
Video- Successful Sunday Start- “You are Draining your Creative Energy”
Let’s start with how you may be draining your own energy and how to have more energy. This is very common and because no one is with us more often or has any more control over what we say to ourselves then we do. Yes, you are with you 24/7 so you best watch how you are influencing YOU.
What kinds of questions are you asking yourself. Notice these types of questions beg for disempowering answers. Answers that will make you feel badly about yourself and strip you of your energy.
- What is wrong with me?
The question begs you to find something that is wrong with you. I can promise you that you do find what you look for and while I believe in self improvement this isn’t the way to go about it. That’s not going to give you energy. Instead it will make you feel like crap! , If you want to know how to have more energy then you need to tackle a lack of self esteem that sees yourself as having something”wrong” with you. Check out my blog post on this “Low Self- Esteem, Overcome It”
This question asks you to search within your memory for anything similar to the present situation and relive each one over and over convincing yourself that “Yes it always does happen to you”. You do understand that constant repetition of an idea will embed it into your brain? Much as we repeat out times tables to learn them by rote- so we create a reality of a negative thought by constantly repeating it to ourselves. if you want to know how to have more energy, stop draining it with negativity!
The Law of Attraction tells us that it happens to you frequently because you’re always asking yourself that question and convincing yourself that it’s true? Yup, that’s how The Law of Attraction works. To understand this better, check out my post “Thinking positive it doesn’t work!!??”
- Why can’t I catch a break?
Now you get to look back at all the other times in your life when things didn’t work out for you. You’ll find evidence of others who got what you wanted and come to the conclusion that their lives are charmed and yours is cursed. Where is that going to get you?
Can you see how your answers to these types of questions are going to make you feel worse? You are very smart you see. Your mind will give you answers, even search for answers to the questions you ask of it. Can you see that if you want to know how to have more energy you have to watch those thoughts that drain that creative energy from you?
I have just interviewed Candace Conradi on my radio show about this particular topic.
Are You Asking The Wrong Questions of Yourself? -Go to My Radio Show Link for this discussion
Asking yourself disempowering questions drains you of your energy and keeps you from moving forward. Learn to ask the questions that help you to feel good about yourself and get to your goals.
My guest Candace George Conradi tells you why you don’t need to FIX yourself. You’re perfect NOW.
How to have more energy by asking the RIGHT questions
Instead ask these types of questions:
How can I improve the situation?
Now you begin to look for positive and proactive ways to make things better for the situation and this spills over into your entire life.
What can I learn from this?
Your mind searches for positive reasons for a happening that may look negative on the surface. The question forces you to put a positive spin on what life has handed you at the moment.
What is the best next step for me to take to get to my goal?
This question causes you to look deeply and without judgment at where you are now and where you want to go. You can use that as your roadmap to take you to your goal.
People that suck the life out of you and even out of the room.
Have you ever been around a group of people and you simply feel drained? You get tired or irritable or both and don’t really know why. Pay attention!
How about being around a particular person, and every time they walk into the room you feel as if a black hole has entered and sucked the life out of the environment? Pay attention!
If you want to know how to have more energy you need to recognize these energy vampires! Some people really should have a health warning plastered on their foreheads and it is especially difficult if they are family and friends who we spend a lot of time with.
On the contrary there are people, places and things that add to your energy, that help to give you that zip and excitement about life and whatever project you may be working on. Perhaps that’s why we see so many people writing their books while sitting in Starbucks and other public places.
It’s critical to pay attention to how you feel and how you may be affected by different environments and various people.
Surround yourself with these kinds of people to energize you- that’s how to have have more energy!
Happy People: They are positive and see the good in almost everything. They have a viewpoint that radiates joy and you feel happy and hopeful just being around them.
High Energy: Each time you’re with them you feel a spark of energy and excitement. They are like natural caffeine and you find yourself talking to them creatively and reaching for thoughts you normally wouldn’t. They inspire you to get out of the box.
Listeners: When you talk to these people you actually feel them listening. They look at you deeply and their body language tells you that you have their total attention. The Listeners patiently wait for you to finish your thought. They ask questions that support what you’ve been saying and help you to draw intelligent conclusions just by being around them.
Coaches and Mentors: These people understand who you are and what you’re going through. They inspire you to move through any blocks you may have and take positive, creative action. The accountability factor you have with a coach is also very effective to juice up your energy. Check out my coaching services and take advantage of my 25 minute FREE initial consulting service- I can show you how to have more energy and release those creative juices! Coaching with Lorane
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You do know, even if you don’t know that you know; but you know! Ever had that feeling? That’s your inner psychic talking. Yes, deep within you and within all of us is that little voice that knows everything. It’s so very quiet though you think you have to look outside of yourself for most of the answers you want. Of course it’s smart, even prudent to do research on any topics that interest you, but that’s not what I’m talking about here. This is about your inner psychic. Yes, you have one and all you have to do is develop your listening skills.
This weeks’ radio show covers this topic and my video on the Inner Psychic is below
Successful Sunday Start- Be Your Own Psychic
So, do we all have psychic ability?
Jay Levin in the Huffington Post says;
Every now and then you likely get glimmers of your psychic ability in the form of “intuition.” There is something you just “know” or feel. Most of us commonly dismiss, diminish or ignore this awareness. Think of the times you have later muttered “Oh, if I had only followed my intuition about this situation (or person)!”
Quiet your mind to get in touch with your inner psychic
Listening skills are a bit harder to get in touch with than you might think. You see we have this loud inner voice, actually a few loud inner voices. One is busy keeping you in the past or in the future. It is telling you what to worry about that might happen, telling you life isn’t good now and won’t be good until you get this or that, or are such and such; telling you that what you did was wrong and you coulda and shoulda and only if you woulda done it differently everything would be better now. These voices are drowning out our inner psychic.
You have the voice I like to call the inner ogre. This is a very loud voice and sounds a lot like a critical grown up from when you were a child. As a matter of fact this voice has taken over for that very person who used to talk to you that way. Taken over and you didn’t even invite it along, did you?
So you see we must learn to quiet all those loud voices that are keeping us from feeling and experiencing peace. We need peace in order to hear that small voice that whispers the truth. That voice that leads us in the correct direction, that voice that answers our heartfelt questions. No we really don’t need to consult a psychic every time we want to know something. We can go to our inner psychic.
Listen to my interview with Lynn Robinson, a renowned psychic- Be Your Own Psychic-
Quiet your mind and develop your inner psychic
After quieting down your mind this is what the world famous Silvia Brown says to do.
Follow your first impression. How many times have you heard an alarm go off in your head about someone or something but disregarded it due to those preconceived beliefs we are all inundated with—only to find out that your feeling was perfectly accurate? When you have an intuitive feeling that something isn’t right, that’s being psychic. When you have hunches that you should avoid a trip, foster a friendship, and take a different way to work, you’re also tapping in to your psychic abilities. Oftentimes, we realize only too late that our first impression was right, but we didn’t listen. Go with your gut-level instincts, the ones that come to you like a flash through to an emotion. These first impressions are intuitive messages and following them is imperative if you want to become more psychic.
Take a chance on your inner psychic!
I say when you have an urge to take a left, when normally to get where you’re going you would take a right, then take that left! You know the saying “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten”. So take the darn left. Allow yourself to be spontaneous. You don’t know where this journey may take you and that’s part of the fun. Explore, do as the bible says and “be as a small child”. Delight in the unforeseen and the good that may be hiding around the next LEFT. It’s fun, now go out there and try these things. After all the worst thing that will happen is you’ll begin to hear your inner psychic and tune into that inner voice!
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When I first started Your Happiness Way it was such a pleasure to see how many of you were interacting with me on Facebook, on Twitter and on my blog. The site and my teachings have expanded so much since then that it seemed a logical next step to invite members of my community to add their voice!
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Are you having a bad day?
Having a bad day? We have all had one of those days where everything seems to go wrong. You crawl out of bed and for no particular reason you’re in a sour mood. Right off the bat your morning is beginning with negative energy. As the day continues you end up late for work, spill your coffee, and forget your wallet. You’re just having one of those days. There are bad days, really bad days, and even worse days. These days happen, and let’s face it, at times are hard to avoid.
When having a bad day becomes having a bad life
Recently I was at a point in my life where I let these days develop into a life style. I forgot everything I was taught by my parents about appreciating life, and being grateful for what I have. When dealing with various hardships, I found myself surrounded by a group of people that encouraged me to feel sorry for myself. I was unable to cope, and fell into a dangerous rut of self-pity; every day I was having a bad day.
When I reached rock bottom and decided it was time for change, I learned a positive attitude helped me cope more easily with the daily matters of life. It took me years of growing and self-reflecting to realize this. To realize I had robbed myself of happiness because I allowed myself to become overwhelmed.
Learning to channel positive energy into my daily routine has kept me optimistic, grateful, and has wholeheartedly changed my life.
If you are having a bad day, try these steps
These are the steps I took to get into the mindset I have today. Having a bad day does not need to turn into a negative life if you follow these steps.
1. Start with self-care
Self-care is controlled by you. It’s deliberate and self-initiated. It is the self-care of your physical, mental and emotional health, and is very often overlooked. We’re our own worst critic, and sometimes our biggest enemy. Be conscious of the way you speak to yourself. Meditation is a wonderful way to connect with your soul and cleanse your mind. Be aware of your inner critic when you are having a bad day- are you blaming yourself for all that is going wrong?
2. Wake Up Grateful
Wake up in the morning, grateful. Sure, things may not be the best. But you’re alive, and you’re here, and whether you believe it or not, you’re important and valued. That’s right. If no one else values you, I value you. I believe every soul on earth makes a contribution to the world we live in – let’s make yours a positive contribution, and a great experience for not only yourself, but those around you
3. Don’t only feel grateful. BE grateful.
There is always something to be grateful for. When you begin to make a conscious effort to recognize the goodness in your life, you will find more and more to be grateful for. A great way to get started is to keep a gratitude journal. Every night, write down 5 things you were grateful for in your day and describe how it affected you. So, when I feel like I’m having a bad day I think of all those little things that make me smile and even re-read my gratitude journal to remind myself. See Gratitude
Last night my 5 month old puppy tapped my knee with hopes of cuddling into my lap. He propped his little feet up on my shoulders and licked me all over my face. As much as I tried to resist those sloppy kisses, I’m grateful to be loved.
4. Remove negativity
Release the energy of yesterday. You have the power to grow above your past, to make yourself stronger and to make yourself whole. If you find yourself in an environment that challenges your happiness, try to make improvements. You are accountable for your own happiness. It is unhealthy to hold onto past hurts; that is how you go from having a bad day to a bad week to months and years of looking back with negativity.
We are our biggest critic – but, I think you’re awesome, and so do your friends, family, and loved ones. Tell yourself you’re awesome. How often do you pat yourself on the back? Do this every day.
“When you cannot get a compliment any other way pay yourself one.” – Mark Twain
6. Don’t sweat the small things.
Although there may be other larger hardships going on in your life, focus your energy on improving the small things. It can be so easy to be thrown off mood when you’re stressed, overwhelmed, over worked, under slept – the list can go on and on. Turn those negatives into a positive. Appreciate the challenges. You are not defined by what happens in your life. Sometimes when you are having a bad day, it can be the small stuff that catches you out, tips you over into negativity- so tackle it.
Where I am today- not having a bad day!
Self-care and gratitude have helped me identify my life’s purpose. I’ve learned my purpose is to love, to be kind and to learn. Not to be happy, but to find it within myself to be whole. I want to share this with the world with hopes to inspire others to overcome their hardships, and appreciate their lives and themselves.
Being your whole self will bring you happiness. Without being your whole self, without feeling fulfilled, without caring for yourself – you won’t be truly happy, and this all starts with positive thinking.
Let me know in the comments below- What are you grateful for?
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Christmas in Russia- My Perspective
It’s New Year’s Eve… I am so excited to wake up early in the morning and run to the Christmas tree to see what Grandfather Frost (Russian Santa Claus) brought for my sister and me. I remember one year specifically we were so excited because we each got 2 mandarin oranges, a handful of chocolate candies and 3 apples. This was the highlight of the holidays.
If I am having a bad day, I think about my humble beginnings, how little I had growing up in Russia and how thankful I am today for the life that I have.
Growing up during the Socialism era in Russia meant scarcity of everything. Of course when this is all you know, you appreciate every little thing. I remember we would go to the store for food, and a lot of times the shelves would be empty. In school, we were taught how lucky we were to live in the greatest and largest country in the world. We were trained to respect and honor the leadership and to appreciate all that we have.
I learned to be resourceful from an early age. Since there was no luxury of buying groceries in the stores, every family had a summer house where they would grow all the vegetables to provide for the family. I spent every summer with my grandparents growing vegetables, some berries, and fruit and raising chickens. I had the best childhood. I learned how to fish, how to sew, how to cook, how to make the best of the resources that we had.
My dad was the entrepreneur in the family. I saw him constantly challenge the status quo. He ventured out into the scary world of business ownership. It is scary to begin with, but in Russia there are additional obstacles to deal with like the mafia. My mom supported my dad by doing all his paperwork and being the best mom for my sister and me. I watched her take care of the household. She trained us to respect what we had, to work with a spirit of excellence, to take care of the house and the people around us.
In Russia, education is taken very seriously. I remember we would have 14-16 subjects to study in our higher grades. There was no such thing as a choice. There was only a must. I was a part of the class with concentration in physics and math. My parents also enrolled me into a music school at the age of 6. I graduated with honors at the age of 15.
I remember when the borders were opened back in 1995. Now there were opportunities to see other parts of the world. My dad asked me if I wanted to go to the United States to study. I for sure thought he was kidding. I thought to myself, if I go to America, I would love to go to Florida, California or New York. From what we saw on TV, America was the land of opportunity. Everything was possible.
My Life changes forever and my perspective too!
I remember getting a call from the company that organized the Student-Exchange Program, to tell me that a family from Indiana picked me. A few months later, I landed in Indianapolis, IN and my life-changing journey began. I was so blessed with my host family. I consider them my American family today.
Now that I am a mom, I have a new appreciation for my parent’s bravery. They knew that moving to America would open up unlimited opportunities for me and they had to sacrifice their quality of life in order to make it happen. I have no idea how my mom did it. There was no internet back then and cost to call was crazy high. I would write a letter and a month later, my mom would get it. It sure would have been much easier if we had Skype and Facebook to stay in touch.
I will never forget the first time I went into the grocery store. I could not believe my eyes when I saw the abundance of fruits and vegetables.
The best part was I could buy it. I could not stop eating! The things that were a luxury to me in Russia like bananas and mandarin oranges were no big deal here in the US. It still shocks me that my kids say no to bananas. If I was asked, “would you like a banana in Russia?” the answer would always be YES!!!
I hardly remember my first 4 months as my English was very poor. I could put sentences together but I didn’t have the vocabulary. My host family had to put me in a private school since the public school refused to accept me as a senior at the age of 16. I remember we went to meet the principal who gave me a Calculus book and a Physics book to see where my education was. I already knew 2/3 of the material to be covered at the senior level. I graduated from the American High school, flew back home, took 13 exams to graduate from Russian high school as well.
My dad brought me back to the States a few months later to help me settle in and ready for college. I remember just like yesterday I could not stop crying because he had to go back. It was so tough. I just had to do what I had to do. My mission was to graduate in a hurry and since my parents were paying for my education there was no time to waste. After 3 years, I graduated with an International Business Degree and at the age of 19 I was ready to take on the business world.
Giving back to my family.
I worked really hard for 10 years in order to afford the opportunity to move my family here. There were times when I wanted to give up. Things get tough, right? I kept on going. I just could not give up on my family. There is no better feeling than to give back to those who are the closest to you.
A lot of times bad things happen in our lives and I find that it all is a matter of perspective. It’s not what happens to us that determines the direction of our lives. It’s how we translate what happens. When I was going through the hard times, I would focus my mind on what I was thankful for and remind myself to look for solutions. Focus on what you are grateful for. Where your focus goes, your energy goes.
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When the pain is so great can you forgive and forget?
Forgive and Forget you are told. Forgiveness. A word so mainstream today that you would think there is no other way to turn the page on pain, anger and resentment.
I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.
Ten years ago, on June 19, my life came crashing down. Marriage was no longer the fairy tale story I imagined as a young girl; it had already turned into a nightmare several years back, with little to no hope for a brighter and happier future. That Saturday morning, I finally called 9-1-1. It may have been the end of violence behind closed doors but it was also the beginning of a different type of hell.
Left alone with two young children overnight, with more debt than I could handle given my junior office manager’s salary, added to the crushing judgment I endured from others who did not understand why I would “mistreat” my husband that way, I felt the extreme heaviness of the burden I seemed to have imposed upon myself and I certainly was in no mood to forgive and forget!
I was free at last, yet at the same time I never felt so bound by the chains of pain and confusion, of anger and resentment, of loss and despair. I was supposedly the victim, yet I felt like I was the one being punished. The word of the moment was SURVIVAL, a far cry from forgiveness.
Today, it hurts me to see others going through the same ordeal. I know how it feels. How can you forgive and forget when you have nothing but emptiness within you?
Too angry to forgive and forget
It wasn’t fair. I didn’t deserve this turn of events. I had done nothing wrong all my life and here I was, not only had my marriage been destroyed, so had I. I felt completely depleted of all energy. The only emotions I carried were anger and resentment. I was angry with everyone and everything yet at the same time, I couldn’t do anything about it. I banned the word forgiveness from my vocabulary. It just didn’t make sense to me.
Since I couldn’t forgive and forget, I couldn’t exactly turn the page according to the experts. What were my other options now? I didn’t know for sure, but since I wasn’t dead yet, I would just have to keep moving forward, somehow.
Hindsight is always 20/20. I know now that I had to start somewhere, and that somewhere was within ME. I had to take care of that emptiness first. As the mother of two young children, my instinct was to take care of them, shoving my needs to the side, however it soon became clear to me that in order to be a better mom, I had to start by feeling better about myself.
It all started with making sure my children and I were comfortable physically. Moving into a nice apartment, getting a promotion and a raise at work, purchasing a car to get around, eating well and exercising, these were all part of meeting our basic needs. I wasn’t strong enough to deal with the emotions yet, but that was fine. Pain and anger would occasionally surface as I worked through divorce negotiations; I would explode crying or cursing, but nothing else. I was not ready yet. I could not forgive and forget I was too busy surviving.
As I filled my life with “things”, I thought I would also be filling the void I always felt. My heart was still this black hole sucking my energy and leaving me feeling so alone. My kids and I looked happy on the outside, but we were crumbling beneath. No material belonging, no week long Caribbean vacation, no new car, new home or new puppy could fill our void.
Identify the pain and move past forgive and forget
It takes digging into the depths of our being to realize that the true culprit for this emptiness is PAIN.
It took me a decade to realize this. The anger and the resentment closer to the surface are simply a vacuum trying, but never succeeding, to fill that void. So what is this pain?
If you think back to childhood, of your expectations for life, of your image of what happiness looked like from where you stood back then, and when you take a good look at your experience since then to compare the two, you will notice a discrepancy. This is the source of your pain.
Life was not supposed to be this way. You wanted so much more out of life. You imagined yourself happy, lively and fulfilled… what happened? The thought may bring you to tears. Let them flow.
With so much hurt in our heart, anger offers a bit of relief, casting responsibility on something or someone else. This is too heavy to carry alone. We draw energy through blame yet the black hole is never satiated.
Only light can drive out the darkness in your heart. True relief from the pain comes from LOVE.
- Loving yourself today, no matter what paths you have traveled.
- Loving the journey, bringing you to where you need to be all the time.
- Loving those around you, as gifts and lessons on this adventure.
It is easier said than done. I hear you. You cannot forgive and forget because the black hole in your heart, the PAIN, it’s all very REAL. Anger has been a suitable release for some time, offering temporary relief as needed, yet you know it is limited, restrictive and unhealthy. It’s time to heal. It’s time to fill the void with light. It isn’t an easy feat… but it can be done… with LOVE.
I am still on this journey today, I have learned a lot from it and I have come a long way. The adventure of digging deep within to uncover hidden pain is the road less traveled; it is a very challenging path at times, but it is also highly rewarding. Today, I have moved past the need to forgive and forget into the peaceful zone of a love-filled heart, I am leading my children onto a similar path as they learn through my experiences, and almost magically, this journey of happiness has fully aligned me with my purpose, to inspire you to LOVE too. I hope you will accept my invitation.
I have published a book on the topic of not being able to forgive..
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GUEST BLOG POST FROM: Michele Penn, Peace in the Present Moment
The Power of Flowers and Floral Art Photography
Flowers evoke a universal feeling in all of us – a feeling of beauty, peace, joy and even sensuality. In addition, flowers also bring energy, grace and a sense of innocence. All of this from flowers? Yes, amazing isn’t it? They provide us with a spiritual connection to the divine and to the beautiful gift inside ourselves. I am privileged to be able to express these feelings in my floral art photography.
When I began photographing flowers, a whole new universe opened up to me – a universe of freedom, stillness, striking beauty and surprising sensuality. As I capture the astounding beauty of the innermost detail of the flower, I am inspired by something bigger than myself. I feel a connection to everyone and everything. I am in touch with the flowers essence so deeply that I feel God. These “soul shots,” as I call them, remind YOU to be present. Just walking past one of these flowers puts you in awe of nature’s beauty. I cannot help but capture this beauty in my passion for floral art photography.
I now live every day with purpose, gratefulness, forgiveness, love, and compassion. I wasn’t always like this. I was in a verbally abusive marriage for 14 years and couldn’t stand up for myself. I thought because I didn’t have bruises that it wasn’t that bad. But, as everyone who has been where I’ve been knows, it can be just as painful and hard to recover from. It continued to get worse and eventually in an emotionally violent rage, he threatened to kill me. I finally left him and instead of losing my life, the incident inspired me to find it. For years afterwards, I lived with depression, guilt, anger, unforgiveness and blame.
Flowers found ME. It seems as if all of a sudden flowers just began to appear as if they were never there before. Where did they come from? What were they telling me? Why was I so intensely drawn to them? I had a deep desire to photograph this delicate, beautiful flower and share it with the world. Flowers were begging to be photographed with their rich textures, graceful elegance, soft geometric shapes and sharp, crisp lines. Yet, it was the feeling that drew me even closer. I felt connected to the soul of the flower. I want to tempt the viewer to look into the soul of the flower too and to actually sigh in deep peace. I needed to express this in floral art photography to capture this connection.
How Eckhart Tolle Changed My Life
Eckhart Tolle’s book, A New Earth, changed my life. The first chapter is called “The Flowering of Human Consciousness.” In this chapter, Eckhart Tolle explained to me why I was drawn to flowers. It was as if he was in my head and knew what I was feeling. That wonderful peaceful feeling I had, where all the chatter in my head stopped for a moment was new to me. Nature is not worried about the past, it does not get depressed or feel anger. Nature lives in the present moment and it exhibits enormous patience. Nature accepts what is. You cannot rush a flower to grow or make it open its petals before it’s time. You must be patient. If you allow it to bloom in its own time, then, and only then will you see the true beauty.
You cannot find yourself by going into the past. You can find yourself by coming into the present. (Eckhart Tolle)
You cannot find yourself by going into the past. You can find yourself by coming into the present.
Your peace is in the present moment. Allow flowers to bring you into presence.
Eckhart Tolle also says that
Even a stone, and more easily a FLOWER or a bird, could show you the way back to God, to the Source, to yourself. When you look at it or hold it & let it be without imposing a word of mental label on it, a sense of awe, of wonder, arises within you. Its essence silently communicates itself to you and reflects your own essence back to you.
This is what happened to me. Flowers brought me to my source. A sense of awe and wonder DID arise in me. My passion is capturing that moment of beauty in a flower and sharing it with the world. My passion is fueled by the feedback I get from helping people everywhere to open their hearts and souls to the beauty of nature, so they are able to look within. My passion is more than floral art photography; it is about getting closer to the exquisite beauty and peace that is nature.
What Flowers Brought Into My Life
I am the floral photographer and creator of New York Times Best-selling authors, Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie’s book, Peace in the Present Moment, also a best-selling contributing author, award-winning photographer and inspirational speaker. If I could inspire Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie to do a book with me, then imagine what you could do. Just like the title of our book, Peace in the Present Moment, Eckhart taught me to be still. He taught me to trust that inner voice and to not listen to anything outside of myself.
Be at least as interested in what goes on inside you as what happens outside. If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place.
What Can Flowers Do For You?
I want to fill homes with peace, elegance and presence. I would like to bring that sense of calm to workplaces where there is so much stress. Hotels, hospitals, spas, waiting rooms, professional work places are ideal places to hang my floral art photography. Bring a calm, peaceful, loving feeling to your environment. Make visitors, colleagues and clients feel at peace.
Studies show that that by viewing flowers you can reduce stress. Reduce stress and experience serenity as you connect to the soul of the flower, the essence of who you are. Just looking at my “soul shots” will make you FEEL good. What will flowers inspire YOU to do? Expect to be awakened and connect to your spirit as I was.
My floral art photography reminds YOU to believe in yourself and become more conscious. YOU will feel and experience the present moment where peace and inspiration dwell. YOU can become more authentically who YOU are. YOU can become more of what YOU need and want.
I suspect that flowers will give you chills as they do for me. You will connect to that place inside yourself that you may be too busy to notice. Join me in the place where I receive all my guidance and inspiration.
Live the life you always imagined. Anything is possible. We can survive, conquer our fears and move on to help others heal. I hope I inspire YOU.
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This Made Me Think
Welcome to a new series of articles by interesting people I have met, read or studied with! Every now and then I come across something I believe will make a difference in both my life and the lives of my readers. So, I decided to share some of these interesting articles, videos, thoughts and inspirations.
I hope you find them thought provoking- read and enjoy!
This is an article reprinted with kind permission from Steven Aitchison- http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/6-great-questions-to-find-your-purpose-in-life/
I believe that much of what prevents us from being happy is that we do not feel a sense of purpose- we feel lost and undervalued. This post gives you some important questions to ask yourself about your purpose in life. I hope this helps to get you thinking about your life and maybe whether you feel the need to change? Enjoy Steven’s article and please post your comments below- what do you believe is YOUR purpose in life?
Have you ever asked yourself
‘Why the hell am I here, what is my purpose in life’?
I believe there are two reasons we were put on this amazing place we call ‘Earth’
To find out what our purpose is
To start living our purpose and do what we were born to do
You are here to make a difference in the world, to leave your mark, to say ‘I made a difference’ when you are lying in your bed waiting in the crossover lounge, you were born for a reason, and the first part of the puzzle is to find out why you were born. Some people go to their graves never knowing the reason, but you have an amazing chance to do just that.
For hundreds of years we were not taught to think for ourselves, we were taught to obey and didn’t even thought about our purpose, it didn’t even occur to us to ask the question. But, we are free thinkers now, we can dream, we can create our own reality and truly find out the reason we were born.
Here are six questions you can ask yourself if you want to find out your purpose
What makes you forget the world around you?
When I am writing, creating images, creating websites or helping others to do better online, I lose track of all time. I am in the zone and time and space just doesn’t seem to exist. One minute it is 8am and the next minute it is 1pm. I lose track of everything and even forget to eat. There have been many times, Sharon has come home from work and asked what I had for lunch and I suddenly remember that i have forgotten to eat lunch.
Do you have something that you do that makes you forget everything around?
How can you get outside your comfort zone?
You will never grow as a person if you don’t start getting outside your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is a place of safety, a place where you feel, well, comfortable. But you will never grow within your comfort zone.
If there’s something you fantasize about, something you’ve always dreamed of and wished you could go for it, but your reasons are you don’t know how to, or you are worried what others may think, then you need to stop for a second and tell yourself if you don’t do it now, then you may as well forget about it.
How are you going to save this topsy turvy world we live in?
There are a hundred and one things that need saving in this world. Pick one and start implementing your plan to save it, anything to get you going: he health system, the education system, the local community hall, the local church, abused animals, anything at all. Your purpose may be to save the world, one cause at a time.
What would you do with your time if you weren’t allowed in your house from 8am – 7pm, didn’t have to work, and your children were being taken care of?
Bit of a strange question this, but can you imagine what you would do if you didn’t have to work and you weren’t allowed in your home. What would you do with all the extra time you had?
You see, we get really comfortable lying around the house or busying ourselves with unimportant tasks, and it’s only when we stop for a few seconds and realize that the time we spent doing something unimportant could have been spent figuring out something more worthwhile to do.
What is your dream?
Many of us forget about pursuing our dreams as they seem fanciful and will never come to fruition. The more you keep thinking about a dream you have the more your subconscious mind will start working out ways to make it happen, instead of dismissing your dream as ‘just a dream.’
How can I make it happen?
The better questions we ask ourselves the better the answers will be, see 34 Thought Provoking Questions. Your subconscious mind again will start working out ways to answer your question.
So, if you constantly ask ‘Why do I never get what I want in life?’ Your subconscious mind will go to work to help you find the answer and it will always be negative. Whereas if you constantly ask yourself ‘How can I make this possible?’ your subconscious mind will get to work and start looking for ways to get you what you want.
Let us know what your purpose is in life, if you have already found it. If not tell us what you’re going to do about it.
I am the creator of Change Your Thoughts (CYT) blog and love writing and speaking about personal development, it truly is my passion.
There are over 500 articles on my site from myself and some great guest posters.
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Steven was a guest on my radio show- http://www.blogtalkradio.com/yourhappinessway/2014/10/16/do-affirmations-really-work-steven-aitchison
Finding your purpose in life is one step closer to being happy. So, ask yourself the questions suggested by Steven and leave a comment below- tell us what is your purpose in life and are you following that path?
Simple Happiness Teachings
10 Steps to Beat Procrastination & Feel Good About yourself
Everyone procrastinates to one degree or another but you can beat procrastination…
What you may not realize is that as outstanding tasks mount, you can become resigned, depressed and inactive, BUT it doesn’t have to be this way. Use these 10 easy steps and finally get relief from procrastination.
1. What are you afraid of?
Believe it or not procrastination is almost always based on some kind of fear.
Start by asking yourself the following questions
What could I be afraid of?
Am I afraid I’m just not good enough?
What would success in this endeavor mean to me?
Am I afraid that succeeding will just cause me more work to do, or more to live up to?
Make the fear conscious
By becoming conscious of the fear it no longer has the power to control you. Once you take a closer look you can decide if it’s based on reality or imagination. In either case you now have the power to deal directly with the fear itself. You can beat the fear and therefore beat procrastination with information and awareness.
Deepak Chopra says:
“Awareness isn’t passive. It leads directly to action”.
2. Determine what your excuses sound like and write them down.
“I’m too broke”
“I’m too tired”
“I’m too sick”
“I’m too inexperienced”
“I’m too old”
“I’m too young”
“I’m too scared”
It’s very important to be aware of the words you use after the powerful “I AM”. Wayne Dyer has written an entire book on how to consciously use the words “I AM” to powerhouse your manifestations. http://www.drwaynedyer.com/blog/the-power-of-i-am. The king of affirmations, R. J. Banks has devoted his life to empowering others with his “I AM” audio programs. http://www.loaaffirmations.com It’s to your benefit to really understand how important it is to be conscious of the words you put after the “I AM”, because of the creative power of the words themselves.
The simple act of unearthing and seeing on paper the words you’ve been saying to yourself can be enough to change your thinking. Shining the light of consciousness on your thought process makes it clear why and how you’ve been manifesting or creating your life thus far and can help you take responsibility. Now you have the power to re think those disempowering thoughts and change them. Now you have the power to beat procrastination.
3. Write a list of everything you’re procrastinating about
- Cleaning out my closet
- Preparing that report
- Sending a thank you note to Aunt Betsey
- Getting the car washed
Getting your to do list out of your mind and onto paper takes a heavy weight off your shoulders. This simple act is a proactive move toward getting something done and enough to begin feeling better about yourself. It’s now on paper and not simply rolling around in your mind and energy field and that takes some of the pressure off and helps to beat procrastination.
4. Prioritize your list starting with the most time sensitive.
Get my tax information to the accountant – A1 priority
Send mom her birthday card- A1 priority
Fix the roof- A1 priority
Clear out the garage – B2 priority
5. Use your imagination to beat procrastination
This is a sneaky way to get yourself to use the extremely motivating force of fear to beat procrastination and it’s VERY effective.
Pick the first thing on your to do list and spend a few minutes imagining how you’ll feel next month if you still haven’t completed this task. Now project the picture and the feeling into a year from now, and then 5 years from now. Imagine what the effects of that look like. Will your health or well-being be compromised? How will it affect other people in your life and your future in general? Expand on that with color, sound and feeling. You can learn this technique of visualizing the outcome of your procrastination quite simply. Check out my Happiness Teachings post, Creative Visualization – A guide and sign up for my Visualization E book to get you started.
6. Visualize success to beat procrastination
Take one thing from your to do’s and make a list of the benefits of completing the task. Even a tiny benefit feels better than the undone task does.
“I’ll be saving money because I won’t be writing a check to the government as a penalty for a late tax payment.”
Close your eyes, breathe deeply into your belly and take a journey into your imagination. First try and see yourself standing proudly knowing you’ve completed the task. Notice how that feels both physically and emotionally. (Refer to my visualization book or guide) For example do you feel lighter, proud, freer, accomplished, confident, relieved? Just find the feeling and enjoy it as if the task has been completed.
Beat procrastination at home!
Now, see what the completed task looks like. If it’s a clean kitchen see your kitchen sparkling, dishes put away, stove top clean as a whistle, everything bright, shiny and spotless. Do the same thing for any type of housekeeping. You can even bring in the smell of something fresh like lemon or pine to add to your visualization.
Beat procrastination at work!
If it’s completing a task at your job or work try seeing yourself handing the finished report to your boss, or putting it up on the web, or publishing it out as your blog. Adding feeling to this is very important. The more you practice this the more you can add the feeling of accomplishment you’ll have when you cross the last T on that report. You’ll experience feeling lighter and freer as you see that clean desk instead of a stack papers, or opening your desk drawer and seeing neat, organized supplies and paperwork.
Beat procrastination over your health!
If it’s starting that exercise program first see yourself at the end point. You’re physically fit and feeling good. Imagine how that feels and how you look in new form fitting clothes, or how your blood pressure and cholesterol levels have gone into the healthy range. Notice the look on your doctor’s face as he reads your results and compliments you on your new found health. Imagine how that feels.
7. Break the items on your to do list into small manageable size chunks
Now that you’ve gotten the feeling of the task being done make a list of bite size chunks that will get you to the end point. For example if it’s starting an exercise program, don’t write down, run three miles a day and do weight training 5 days a week. Write something like, walk/run three blocks away from my starting point and three blocks back. Every week I’ll add another block, run a little more and walk a little less until I build up to the three miles. When I get home I will do some light stretching and work with my hand held weights for 10 minutes. Each week I will add heaver weights and another 5 minutes to my routine until I’m at 30 minutes 3 times a week.
For home organization, instead of, tomorrow I’m going to clean out my entire closet, change that to, tomorrow I will go through my shoes and donate those that I’m no longer wearing. Then the following day or week I’ll go through my shirts and do the same thing, etc until the closet has been entirely gone through and reorganized.
8. Do the first manageable size chunk.
Go ahead. Look at the bite size chunk you’ve just determined and DO IT. Don’t think about it. Just do it. If you’re once again procrastinating about doing the one tiny thing go back to your visualization. This time see yourself having finished this one bite size chunk. See it, feel it, smell it. (Refer to my visualization book or read my Creative Visualization Guide)
9. Feel your success
Spend some time feeling good about what you’ve just accomplished no matter how small you may think it is. Appreciate yourself for getting the first step done. Stand in front of the mirror and congratulate yourself. Yes, I know you’ll feel silly and that’s good. Laugh and make it fun. Reach around and actually pat yourself on the back. Call a supportive friend and tell them how good you feel having accomplished that small step. It’s very important to reward yourself with each small success because feeling good about yourself gives you the confidence and the energy to be more proactive and finally beat procrastination.
10. Observe your thoughts and words
You have the power to motivate yourself or cause yourself to feel so disheartened it can paralyze you. You’re either your own best friend or most feared enemy and it’s most important to observe your words, thoughts and beliefs in order to delete the disempowering ones and enhance the positive. Read, The Inner Observer
Here’s a picture and quote from one of my favorite philosophers.
Follow my ten steps and you CAN beat procrastination!
Creative Visualization – 10 Fabulous ways to create what you want!
1. Anyone can do it
Many people are under the impression that creative visualization takes a lot of skill and is reserved for athletes that have been trained to visualize by their coaches, or just those who are naturally visual. Those people are good at visualizing but that certainly doesn’t mean that you can’t learn to visualize. It just takes the desire to learn and then practicing it just like you’d practice anything at which you want to become proficient.
2. You’re already doing it
How many times have you imagined a scene from a movie or from an earlier time in your own life? Have you ever recollected a scene from a play, or remembered what a photo looked like? Have you drawn something from memory or even tried to do your make up the way you saw a professional do it? Well, all of that takes creative visualization. If you’ve done any of that, and I’m sure you have, then you’re already visualizing.
3. You have a built in screen in your mind
You can close your eyes and imagine the inside of your forehead as a blank screen. It’s the natural placement of your eyes and actually quite comfortable. Just close your eyes and imagine the inside of your forehead is a blank screen. Then you learn to project a picture onto the screen.
4. Creative visualization is a powerful tool for manifestation
It’s long been said that the key to bringing something into your life is to see it first in your minds eye. First as imagined, then you begin to feel it and to believe it. Visualizing is a powerful tool to bring what you’re visualizing into your real life.
Science has discovered that the brain doesn’t really know the difference between visualizing doing something and actually doing it. It’s been used as a training tool with athletes for decades now to improve their performance. It was found to be especially useful after an injury when an athlete couldn’t use their body, so instead, intensely used visualization techniques to keep and even improve their performance. Creative visualization literally creates a training schedule in the mind. It’s been tested and it works!
6.The more detail you add to the picture the better
The brain accepts the picture you’re having as the real thing when you put rich details into your visualization. Have fun with it and while you’re picturing something just fill it in with colorful details. Being creative is an integral part of creative visualization techniques. Simply ask yourself what types of things you would see or notice in real life. Then attempt to add them to your picture.
7. You can imagine sounds along with your visualization
Do you remember the sound of your alarm clock for example? I’ll bet you do, or the sound of the school bell when you were a child. How about your mom insisting you get up for school when you just wanted to sleep for ten more minutes. That’s what I mean, just add the memory of sound to the picture. Sound adds reality to your creative visualization.
8. You can imagine smells
Do you remember the smell of freshly baked cookies, or even burning toast? You just close your eyes with the intent of remembering. The idea is to fill in the picture using all of your senses. When you engage all your senses in your creative visualization it becomes a complete picture.
9. You can bring anyone you want into the picture with you.
Close your eyes for a moment and remember back to sitting around the table with your family on a holiday, or even a Sunday night dinner. Notice how you can remember where everyone sat, or even the jokes they might have shared with one another? Notice the first one to dig into and hog the mashed potatoes? Yep, that’s what I mean. It’s that simple when you allow it to be.
10.You can step into your visualization
Now as you’re seeing that family dinner or occasion notice where you were sitting. Who was on either side of you and what you may have been viewing from your vantage point. OK, now take a deep breath and simply imagine for a moment that you can step into that scene as you were at that time. Just take it very easy, have fun with it and soon enough you may even taste those mashed potatoes.
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Finding happiness isn’t really all that complicated, it’s actually easier than feeling miserable.
All the great wisdom teachings have said, in one way or another, it’s not as much what you have, it’s how you think about what you have. We have all heard stories about the handsome, wildly successful man with a beautiful family, yet he’s utterly miserable. How about those beautiful women that are on the covers of magazines, stars, starlets and models, yet we get news of their drug dependency, failed relationships and alcoholism. Did you ever wonder why with all their beauty, money and worldly success would they be that unhappy?
“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be” ― Abraham Lincoln
You see, it really doesn’t matter how much you have, how society views you, or how beautiful you are. What matters is the way you feel about yourself and how you view your life. Of course this is assuming your basic needs of food, clothing and shelter are met.
We’ve all picked up habits and ways to live our life. We’ve developed thought patterns we’ve learned from our parents and care givers that have formed our self talk. Sadly if we’ve had parents that criticized us and made us feel badly about ourselves, often our own self-talk takes over where their’s left off. When we learn to listen to our self talk we can change this.
Happiness is all about the way you view things and how you treat yourself. You can choose to look at what you don’t have and be miserable about it, or you can choose to look at what you do have and appreciate it. Every situation, every moment of your life allows you that choice, but YOU have to choose. Your happiness is your responsibility now that you’re an adult.
Tools you can use to be happy
- The first thing you absolutely need, is to recognize what your thinking and feeling while you’re thinking and feeling it. We can go through our whole lives never actually noticing the thoughts that are making us miserable. You can learn to hear or notice the thoughts that are going through your mind. This is called the Inner Observer. http://loranegordon.com/yourhappinessway/inner-observer/
- Getting in touch with your body and the clues it gives you is very important. Your body can let you know something’s up and it’s time to pay attention to whatever it is even before your mind can. This is something you can learn to notice.
- Be wherever you are while you are there. Sound silly? It’s not. Think of all the times when you were doing something yet thinking about something else. Think of all the times when you were somewhere, yet you were wanting to be somewhere else. You cannot appreciate this moment if you’re not experiencing it. http://loranegordon.com/yourhappinessway/living-in-the-moment/
- Notice when judging something as bad. As soon as we go into judgment about a person, a situation or an event we are less than happy. Judging a person separates you from them and love cannot get in or out. Judging a situation makes one good and the other not as good creating unhappiness.
- Accept everything for exactly what it is. Things are as they are. Accept them and move on. Bemoaning a situation does nothing to change it. As a matter of fact it only keeps you stuck in what you don’t like.
These things may take a little time to incorporate into your life, but I urge you to remember one thing. Happiness is up to you, it’s your responsibility and you can be happy.
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